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Shadow is a "SAGE" also. Hey Sage 
1956deluxe, I have some what of an idea how to enjoy life and part of that is giving back to others from what others have given me. |
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Are you telling me my fantasy's will never come true and I will not ever find my prince charming 
Nope, not saying that at all 
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Are you telling me my fantasy's will never come true and I will not ever find my prince charming
Nope, not saying that at all
Good then someone find me that Big ole Backhoe I need to do some rock digging to find him 
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Edited by
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you never will find a same person..... but you can take the qualitys that were possitive within one that you were with, and fancy to have those again....... for if you were with that person they had something good about them..... and maybe you will find new qualitys you like with the next person..... thats how i look at it anyway
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Are you telling me my fantasy's will never come true and I will not ever find my prince charming
Nope, not saying that at all
Good then someone find me that Big ole Backhoe I need to do some rock digging to find him
Hmm, he would be kinda stifff by now wouldn't you think so? Wait! that might be a good thing LMAO |
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you never will find a same person..... but you can take the qualitys that were possitive within one that you were with, and fancy to have those again....... for if you were with that person they had something good about them..... and maybe you will find new qualitys you like with the next person..... thats how i look at it anyway
I agree  and it's good to see you back Buttons
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Edited by
buttons
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Sat 06/07/08 10:59 AM
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thanks shadow
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I am finding everything is fine until the idea of meeting. At that point fantasy becomes reality. People start to change. It could be the stress acting on someone. It would better if we stop projecting who we think someone is and give acceptance for flaws. Instead we try to find flaws or reasons why something will not work.
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scttrbrain
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Sat 06/07/08 11:25 AM
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I know that it is within myself I have to look first. I cannot find happiness unless and until I have it myself. I do have that. That is why I am so choosy as to whom I respond to. I see where our mutual happiness comes into play. For me to want what someone else has...it must be what I already have...and that is sureness of myself and stability of heart and mind.
If they do not have at least that...there is no going any further. If I see something I don't like...I assume it is also in me, therefore; not a good thing to combine. There is not a lot I do not like about myself, so there is much openess to an honest loving relationship. I am not looking, just hoping one day it will find me unawares. Kat |
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Edited by
TheShadow
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Sat 06/07/08 11:35 AM
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I know that it is within myself I have to look first. I cannot find happiness unless and until I have it myself. I do have that. That is why I am so choosy as to whom I respond to. I see where our mutual happiness comes into play. For me to want what someone else has...it must be what I already have...and that is sureness of myself and stability of heart and mind. If they do not have at least that...there is no going any further. If I see something I don't like...I assume it is also in me, therefore; not a good thing to combine. There is not a lot I do not like about myself, so there is much openess to an honest loving relationship. I am not looking, just hoping one day it will find me unawares. Kat I agree, it start with are selves. Now there are alot of people on here tht are just here for friends and have a good time. I'm here for the same thing but if somthing happens on the way. I go with the flow. When i first joined this site. I was kinda like some of the men on here. Looking for what i could get and not so much giving back. Today and meeting somone of the friends i have on here has open my mind to things i new, but needed to focus on. So they helped me see that it's not about looking for what i think will make me happy. It was looking at what would make me happy. |
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So if you stop and really look around you and not looking for what you can get and learn how to look for what you can give. I bet anyone here your life will change for the better...
I think it is a balance between Giving & Getting that works for me..... I've learned that relationships work best when each of us truly understands what our needs are, how we want to live our lives...and which qualities and personality traits that the other person possesses will be a good fit for us. |
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There are few that actually looking for somone to be happy with. Most are looking for what will make them happy. A seemingly subtle distinction, and one which I have found to be entirely accurate in the vast majority of cases. Thank you for putting it so succinctly! I had never thought of it in quite those terms before.... |
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There are few that actually looking for somone to be happy with. Most are looking for what will make them happy. A seemingly subtle distinction, and one which I have found to be entirely accurate in the vast majority of cases. Thank you for putting it so succinctly! I had never thought of it in quite those terms before.... ^^ what he said 
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So if you stop and really look around you and not looking for what you can get and learn how to look for what you can give. I bet anyone here your life will change for the better...
I think it is a balance between Giving & Getting that works for me..... I've learned that relationships work best when each of us truly understands what our needs are, how we want to live our lives...and which qualities and personality traits that the other person possesses will be a good fit for us. It is a give and take,but in the early years for me it was about taking and thats the difference today. If i know somone is giving, then i'm more open to being me and sharing that with them. |
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I am finding everything is fine until the idea of meeting. At that point fantasy becomes reality. People start to change. It could be the stress acting on someone. It would better if we stop projecting who we think someone is and give acceptance for flaws. Instead we try to find flaws or reasons why something will not work. BINGO! That is sooo true! The closer it gets to meeting a certain someone on here...the more skered I get! And the reasons keep flooding and knocking me over! 
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There are few that actually looking for somone to be happy with. Most are looking for what will make them happy. A seemingly subtle distinction, and one which I have found to be entirely accurate in the vast majority of cases. Thank you for putting it so succinctly! I had never thought of it in quite those terms before.... Thanks for your reply
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That is, precisely,
why I, only, "HIT" on Chicks in Kroger. 
...a quick look into a cart can be revealing ........ I am finding everything is fine until the idea of meeting. At that point fantasy becomes reality. People start to change. It could be the stress acting on someone. It would better if we stop projecting who we think someone is and give acceptance for flaws. Instead we try to find flaws or reasons why something will not work. BINGO! That is sooo true! The closer it gets to meeting a certain someone on here...the more skered I get! And the reasons keep flooding and knocking me over!
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I am finding everything is fine until the idea of meeting. At that point fantasy becomes reality. People start to change. It could be the stress acting on someone. It would better if we stop projecting who we think someone is and give acceptance for flaws. Instead we try to find flaws or reasons why something will not work. BINGO! That is sooo true! The closer it gets to meeting a certain someone on here...the more skered I get! And the reasons keep flooding and knocking me over!
It's interesting you said that, because sometimes the other might be feeling the same way. one thing i have learned being on here is try not having expectations and it's hard not to to, but letting myself know there is nothing wrong in having a little hope. |
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I know that it is within myself I have to look first. I cannot find happiness unless and until I have it myself. I do have that. That is why I am so choosy as to whom I respond to. I see where our mutual happiness comes into play. For me to want what someone else has...it must be what I already have...and that is sureness of myself and stability of heart and mind. If they do not have at least that...there is no going any further. If I see something I don't like...I assume it is also in me, therefore; not a good thing to combine. There is not a lot I do not like about myself, so there is much openess to an honest loving relationship. I am not looking, just hoping one day it will find me unawares. Kat I agree, it start with are selves. Now there are alot of people on here tht are just here for friends and have a good time. I'm here for the same thing but if somthing happens on the way. I go with the flow. When i first joined this site. I was kinda like some of the men on here. Looking for what i could get and not so much giving back. Today and meeting somone of the friends i have on here has open my mind to things i new, but needed to focus on. So they helped me see that it's not about looking for what i think will make me happy. It was looking at what would make me happy.
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Just going off another topic. I see how Men/Women and alot in the last two years ask this. Why can't i find a decent person. The truth is, alot of people are attracted to the whild side of life and they run with that and they end up staying in the same pattern, looking for what they had at one time. The truth is, your not going to find it and thats because everyone is different. There are few that actually looking for somone to be happy with. Most are looking for what will make them happy. So if you stop and really look around you and not looking for what you can get and learn how to look for what you can give. I bet anyone here your life will change for the better... [/quote is that what people say when they reach 10,000 post's???????? |
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