to fall in love...and anyway what is love...a strong like?? I was on here the other day talking about this new guy in my life, that I was told was a keeper, but my question today is about this thing called love...is it because I don't love myself that I can't seem to fall into it? I have been married twice, the second one I was head over heels in love with I thought, till that went south...so can anyone define love...as in the opposite sex type love..

sorry can't help you here...........i think one does have to love them self before they can love another........

i am the same way...I don't expect to fall in love again. I just chalk it up to experience...that sounds better than jaded...lol

to me love is taking the time to understand each other. to help fulfill one anothers dreams and goals. to laugh when you're angry, to smile just knowing that person is going to be there for you. a true partner, and best friend. but that's just me

That's cool!! TY

you're welcome! i think a lot of people confuse lust for love, especially in the beginning of a relationship. love isn't always going to have that ZING that everyone wants.. that ebbs and flows in time. IMHO

I often have thought this one and the sooner people realize it the happier they would be

When you start life as a 16 yr old the whole love life is like a whole New York Cheese cake. During the years you slice it and you give it to all types of Tom, D**k (as in Richard Moron) or Harry. Buy the time we approach the autumn of our lives there is so little of the cake left that it is dished out very sparingly and therefore cautiously. Hence the last few slices we daren't give away because we need to keep it for a special one who by this time has become so illusive because we have become so picky and set in our ways that no one fits the bill and "He/She" is not obtainable.

Instead I approach it can I be a friend who I will grow to like them? I think every one is intelligent enough to pick the rest of the thread from there.That is my theory and works for me

I THINK YOU NEED TO RE-DEFINE LOVE....FOR YOURSELF. LOVE,REAL LOVE, IS NEVER A,"STRONG LIKE". MAY BE ITS THAT YOU REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS? I THINK IF YOU DID,YOU WOULD NEVER USE,"STRONG LIKE",IN ITS PLACE. I DONT THINK ONE SETS OUT TO FIND LOVE.......LOVE JUST FINDS YOU,AND MOST OF THE TIME ,YOU NEVER SEE IT COMING.

Sometimes it takes us letting down our guard a little and allowing ourselves to feel. Those of us that have gotten hurt have a hard time with that. Not easy to put your heart back out there......

to me being in love with some one of the opposite is...
at first unobtainable until you love yourself whole heartedly...
loving who they truly are imperfections and all...
loving how imperfect they are over how perfect ought to be...
you have trust in this person with your whole soul...
you care and are willing to do anything for this person no hesitations...
when you can can not explain how you feel about them...

think you need to give yourself a break and take time for you. When it happens, you'll know

Stop thinking about love. It is an emotional experience, one that logic will never be able to define. The more you think about it, the more confused you will become.

Love is a verb, an action word. Just saying it doesn't make it so. As for falling in love, it should be classified as a mental illness, retarding normal intelligence, but that never stopped me before, and probably wont in the future.

Just because you've been married twice and are single now does not mean you've never fallin' in love.

Love is not something that can be defined, but once you find it you know what it is.

Ok, i think this is where people can get confused.

There is intimacy - respect and where people feel the need to open up and share inner thoughts and feelings (kinda like you do with friends)

Then there is commitment - where people make sacrifices for each other, and WORK on staying together.

And there is passion - basically this the physical part of the relationship combined with a bit of infatuation.

Ok, the "butterflies" in the stomach feeling that everyone seems to be so hung up over is infatuation. This seems to be very powerful, but some people have a hard time feeling this way, especially after being "burned" a few times. But this is supposed to be a temporary feeling anyway.

Love is something earned over time. It can grow from intimacy, commitment, or passion. But in order to maintain you must have all three to at least some degree. People don't seem to realize these days that committed relationships don't just happen. You have to work hard on holding it together. I could go on all day about this stuff, but i guess i will just leave it at that for now...