About 7 years running.

In a Nut Shell, What is wrong with you is that you're putting your life on hold until you Fall in Love! You're 20 fricking years old! Besides, the poor girl you end up hooking up with will never live up to your idea of a GF and it will end up in dissappointment too and you'll be right back where you started.... Go out and do something

Go find some one week loves, or one month loves or even one night loves until you find out what you want in a girl (not expect to find some chic that's going pull you out of a seven year depression)

My life isn't on hold. It's stopped. There is nothing I really want beside love and I only want that because it's the only thing that's appearantly missing.

Dude, you just said your life is "S T O P P E D"!!!!!
But love is the only thing you're missing?

Find a Mail Order Bride that doesn't speak a lick of English, that way she'll be as dependent on you as much as you will be on her!

Dr Phil Out

You know what you people are right. I just need to ball up whatever feelings I have and forget about the whole thing.

BEST advice around! Bravo!

My friend, I think you may need more help than is available here. I have put my life on hold for my ex for years because she was in desperate need of several things in her life. I have only recently begun to live life again for me rather than her. That has been one of the hardest things I have had to deal with in my life, but I have survived, albeit alone. I have even had to pretty much divorce myself from my family because of the things they did to help cause my divorce. I am alone and I desperately want to be in love again, but I am taking a break from woman for reasons of my own. I haven't given up, but I am just waiting for that one special woman if I can find her. She is out there waiting for you, but unless you get your emotions in check you may just let her pass by without even realizing it, or worse, you may try too hard and scare her off. You need to be yourself, and I don't think you are able to do that very well right now. You may need to consider actual counselling if you can't get things straightened out in your head and heart soon. That is not a bad thing, lots of people need counselling. You just seem to be like me and feel things too deeply for your own good at times. I wish you the best, and hope that special someone falls into your life soon.

That's great for short term, but don't let it sit inside you and fester like an infectedd wound. If you can let go then fine, but don't just lock it up because it will someday try to sneak out and that could get ugly. Be careful my friend...

Thanks.

has that worked for you??

I am convinced now that I'm hopeless.

nice

you have a life to live whether or not you fall in love. you have a job that you want to pursue and probably a few hobbies. focus on them. the more you want and need love, the less you will get it because other than that, you're life doesn't have too much in it. just go out and live and feel great about yourself.

that's the first step.

I don't think you're hopeless at all....love isn't something that you necessarily know how to do...when you fall in love, you'll know..it's the best feeling in the world..granted, i haven't had any luck lately, but i'm not giving up...don't give up...but don't put too much pressure on yourself either..it will happen..just give it time.

Meh. No matter how hard I try to force myself into thinking I'll never fall in love I still come to these damn dating sites as anxiouse as ever.

This isn't something that you would want to hear, but this is a part of life: the more you want it, the less you're gonna get it.