Another scary thought on LDR's...

Sometimes I can't stop my mind from twirling and I pondered over this late into the night...
Relationships take time to form...it takes time to learn all of the little idiocyncrosis (sp?) about each other.
What they do that irritates you? What do you do that irritates them? Do you like their relatives? Do they like yours?
etc. etc...you get the idea....well, in a long distance relationship where you really can only see each other for a limited time....how do you learn these things
well enough to make any major decisions later on? I mean like possibly living together? In a LDR things can get sooo intense so fast because you really want what you think you can't have...that you might jump too quick! Moving along with your brain on hold. I think maybe you can fall for someone far away...but can it really work?
What are your thoughts on this? Are these genuine concerns or am I just nuts?

um.....dunno

TY for your insight

LOL. well it's an age old question that's all. I honestly think if you get the answer to this.......you'll be rich and then we should get married. LOL

I met my ex while I was in the Navy and we lasted for 15 years. You can't get more LDR then out in the middle of the ocean.

maybe i just think too much

or maybe I don't think enough

Noooooooooo silly

Just quietly listen to your heart. You already know the answers.

Of course they are genuine concerns. It is harder with and LDR the only way you can know some of these things is to visit one another. Even then it will not be and easy road to go down. But....both must at time be able to fully trust the other person. Communication is a big factor within it all. Don't fail to ask questions and both should feel at ease to tell the other one about there family friends past and etc....

Anything can work if two are willing to try. Heck my ex I only knew him 2 months before we got married had meet his mom once or twice and really did not know his family. For it was him I wanted to get to know not his family that can come later.

I don't think the chances of an LDR working out are very good. The logistical problems aside, it can create false feelings because there isn't enough real contact, so naturally your mind starts to work overtime thinking about the relationship. This can make you think that there is more there than there is, etc.

that IS the attraction of the LDR.....you "get to" skip some of that and proceed directly to go....collect your 200.00 and worry about that stuff later.......

I think you're asking yourself the right question's. Maybe you should have weekend visit's to get an idea of what your answer's may be.

hearts can be foolish

That is just what I am worried about!

in my honest opinion, LDR's dont really work, sure there are those few cases where it has triumphed, but come on, lets be real, everyone needs that physical part of a relationship and frankly you cant get that from an LDR, and im not just talking about sex either

It happened to me, so I'm speaking from experience. I tend to avoid LDRs now.

I agree totally. It's all great in the beginning where you are talking to each other all the time thru email, text or phone conversations and even if you get to meet up with each other in person that's great too. But there comes a point in the relationship where you want that person around more often then every couple of weeks/months and that's where it gets hard. I could never do it.

Well said


My thoughts exactly

if long distance doesnt work than i am doomed to be single 4 ever..