I am sitting here thinking as I am on an IM with this guy. He is telling me that his goals are get married and have a family.

Well I NEVER want to get married again. Never EVER! Been down that road once and will not go back. I mean do not get me wrong I will live with a guy if the time is right, but I never want to be asked that question.

Just like having a family. I can't have more children. Not that I do not want more, I just can't have more. My tubes are tied.

But a family and marriage is normal to want and I understand that.

Guess I am asking this to the guys. If a woman does not want to have children or get married again, how much of that is a deal breaker to you?

For me it is the deal breaker,i dont want kids or to get marriage.There are still some guys out there who dont.

Its perfect for me, I have raised all the kids I intend to and could live with a significant other for the rest of my life!!!! ( by the way would u marry me and have my children?)

It is fine for me!!! I have one son and I am very happy with him, I just don't want anymore! I have been married once also and trust me, that ain't happening again!!! LOL

Mikey this one word I am about to say to you maybe the first and oly time I say it to you, so read carefully and cherish it......


HELLL NOOOOOO

And I mean that with the utmost respect
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GOOD!!!!!!!!! Now i can continue to lust after you!!!!

Well, "IF" that is what I wanted (marriage and family) it would be a deal breaker unless there was some sort of compromise made on both parts. If she had a child and could not get pregnant again, then maybe she would be willing to adopt one with me. As for marriage? Well, people get married for all the wrong reasons nowadays, so I could concede on this.

Now, if I really wanted to get to meet her and know you more, then I would be able to decipher if a relationship is worth the risk to take.

Bottom line, I would want to see how things went first and then decide if she and I would be a match. Personally, I think that people who set strict guidelines for who and what they want risk the possibility of missing out on someone great. Then again, I could be wrong.

For me, it's a deal breaker if she WANTS to get married or have kids.

But I'm just weird like that....

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I'll let you in on a secret:

We claim to know what we want and that there are "deal breakers." Yet, if you are the "ONE" for us, we become flexible.

At least, those of us who think happiness supercedes conventionality will agree.

JMO

Not a deal-breaker at all. I've seen a great many family members and friends go through some pretty bad divorces (including my parents, which was probably the worst out of all of them), and I've concluded that that's something I probably wouldn't want to get into. And THAT would mean NOT getting married.

And -seeing as how things aren't improving both here in the country as well as globally- having kids is probably not a smart thing to do either, as THEY'D be the ones to face the crap our predecessors have laid out for them. I just couldn't do that to any potential kids of mine.

OK, but while you are lusting please refrain form using that noway look again will yea?

it wouldent for me i have a wounderful son already so i am happy with him not sayen i wouldnt mind anouther tho

ive been married and devorced befor i was 25 so not sure i would want to feel like that agen i would be completly happy just liven together

Glad to see so many people that want or in this case do not want the same things that I want. At least there is still hope for me.

Does that mean u are saying YES!!!!!!!

never been married..have one child..not sure i want to another child..have met someone who has never been married and has no children..we chatted about it but its not an issue for either of us..would like to try the married thing though..so yer never know...but i guess its getting to know each other and deciding if that person is right for you

Debbie i aske u to mary me 5,480 times and each time u said "tomarrow"!!! I had to take that ring back, ya know!!!

awh did you get your money back hun..all 40 bucks lol i think it was

$29.95 with a rebate and $5 insurance in case it turned your finger green!!!!

cheapskate lol...gee you could have least stretched it to 40

Geesh Whisper, now you are going to make me do a lot of thinking! I do not want to get married and I can't have any kids either!! HMMM I wonder if my little lovebug really feels the same way or is he just saying this because of how I feel?
YIKES!! I guess I really need to sit down and ask him his true feelings!!
(((WHISPER)))