Do you think it is fair for a woman to keep a man's child away from him
just because they are not a couple anymore?

She feels if she can not have the man, he will not see his child.
What's up with that?

That is very wrong. NOT fair. Just because he wants to end the
relationship is no reason to hold the child from their dad!! It would be
H*** to pay if my X told me I couldn't see my kids anymore. We would be
in court the next week!!!!
JMO Nerves

Nope, not fair. Mommy is mommy and always will be. Daddy is daddy and
always will be. Adults tend to forget this.

She just thinks if she does do that that he will stay with her. But if
he is not happy she should let him go and let him be happy... women do
forget that he will always be the father and if she take them away from
him the kids will blame her for that one day.

Not right sounds childish to me...no matter wat goes on between her and
him is between her and him and the child shouldn't have to suffer...now
if he choose not to see the child thats his fault...like my case i give
my babys dad the chance to see his son he chooses not too...why he
chooses not to thats a hole different story though

I've seen some women do this purely to hurt the guy. A lot of times,
she feels this is the only way to get back at him -- payback for
whatever it is he did that hurt her, real or imagined. If there's no
communication and they can't deal with things rationally, and in the
best interests of the kid, it all boils down to selfishness and revenge.

The sad part is it's usually the kid who gets the short end of the
stick; impacts on their later life, relationships, etc. A ot of
screwed-up kids become screwed-up adults because the parents were too
short-sighted and self-absorbed to consider how their actions would
affect those kids.

No it is not right at all for kids tend to blame their selves for thier
parents spiltting up and for an adult to put a child in the middle of it
like a pawn is wrong and one day if she doesn't fix it now her children
will blame her for all

My two cents:
She's hurting the child more than anything. It's no longer about her,
it's about the child and setting a positive example for the child.

No...It's not fair...A female should be glad a man wants to see his kids
now...With some of the ignorant men that women have to deal with
today....See that is how good men get turned off because some stupid
woman took them through the mill....Do you know how many of our good
black men have turned into **sholes because of some simple minded
woman......

Well, what suggestions do you have that could help him persuade her to
let him see his child?

please don't take this answer as bitterness, but the 2 words that come
to mind right away ???.... COURT ACTION ..... not good for the child,
expensive, BUT people, act like adults THEN have children.

The words, "Talk to my lawyer." come to mind. If she's that dead set
against him seeing his child that would seem to be the only recourse.

No as you put it, it does not sound fair. But are you sure there is not
something deeper on why that mother does not want the father to see the
child then what they are sharing? If no then yes taking legal action is
the best way. It's the best way whether the answer is yes or no. But I
know being a single mother that left an abusive relationship. I will not
allow my ex anywhere near my children unless there is somebody that is
18 years or older that I trust.

But get him or her to go to the family courts and file a suit.

That is so not right the only persont that gets hurt by that is the
child. It's realy sad that men or women uses a child as a pawn to hang
over the others head. Sorry but they need it done to them for a while
and so they could see how that really hurts the other person. You don't
ever use a child as a pawn anytime heck I us to encourge my ex to pick
the kids up anytime he wanted to we did not go by the divorce papers on
that but it was his choice not to pick them up not mine. A child should
always be able to be around both parents and anytime. For when they grow
up the parent that keep them away will regret those choices sooner or
later.

Take her to court a judge will make mince meat out of her and quick they
really frown on those things and if she does it again after that and he
takes her back to court humm she better like seeing the inside of a jail
cell for she will have plenty of time to count the bars for a few days
for that is what the judge will tell her the first time. So go through
the system and take her to court.

I hear you all....Please pray for this situation to get better.
I believe "Children are our future, if we as adults act like
children, how can our children learn to be adults?

since when are the courts fair to the father?

I heard that rambill!

So far the courts are taking almost all of his money...almost causing
him to loose his job. And then on top of that she is running around
like a chicken head XXXXXXX.

It's a sad situation, but I believe that if you and I pray that things
will change for the better. Thanks!

Opinion; Best attorney wins, just the way it is. I had to go to the
mattresses to get my ex to calm down. Load your guns w/all the evidence
you can & take toe other down.

well i know this situation well i have two sister that have kid that
have no contact with the fathers also i grow up myself without knowing
my own father this is a bad thing the father is just as important in
the lives of childern as the mother that why i vow to stay apart of my
kids lives even thou me and thier mother's not together(seperated3years
now)