from "Looking for a Date" to "Looking for a Relationship" Truth be known, I felt like it! I am tired of going out on meaningless dates that only end up in the bedroom and a courtesy call.

I am in search of The Holy Grail, reaching for the Brass Ring so to speak. Don't get me wrong, the horizontal slap and tickle is great fun, but I want something more.

Am I just odd for feeling this way?

not at all im young and im already tired of dating i hate it lol some guys are just butts and yeah u have all the reason in the world to feel this way

I don't think it's odd at all...I don't even bother unless I think it could be the real deal myself.

Not at all. As time passes, we have new thoughts and ideas, new experiences and revelations, new inclinations as to what we want and what we think would make us happy.

I spent years being perfectly content with the 3-month-long, revolving door entanglements. Then I met someone who totally changed my mind about what a "relationship" should be.

I honestly couldn't even tell you what my "looking for...." is set to right now. I've changed it about a hundred times....

i bet the women r perving ya now

Wow you go out on dates, there must be girls in your area on here, unlike here

let em know up front under no circumstances you will not end up in the bedroom.............do it different, go under pine trees or something............

nope you're not odd in thinking this way.....that's why we are here or every other dating site we've been on. We're all looking for the same thing. I know I am tired of the meaningless who ha that goes along with "dating".

Not at all,wish you the best

Peccy, that's one big reason why I just didn't date at all for 10 years. It was the same old thing over and over again. Pretty much anyone can get a date or get in bed with someone. I wanted more and wasn't up to the arduous task of the search. Just now trying to come out from under my rock...... Best to you in your search......

Tried that, sap is a bit**.

ODD? Nope...not at all...unrealistic in my opinion...finding someone who really wants more than that slap n tickle you mention is more difficult than you think...they say things like "Where are the nice guys"...and those woman who say thats what they want...just a side note here...what they really mean is they want someone who looks like a stud, has deep pockets, drives a fancy car, showers them with gifts....and then wants that nice guy they mention...in just that order...just a reality check here...but go for it...who know's...maybe you'll get lucky!

Best of luck!

And please don't boil me in oil here folks...I'm not some bitter man...just honest, speaking from experience and accepting my fate with dignity LOL!

not all women are like that

Heh, I'm 23 and I've been wanting to settle down for a few years already. Never wanted to go out with a girl unless I could POTENTIALLY see a marriage in the future. Dating never seemed to make much sense to me. Though, from a Christian prospective, the benefits of dating are irrelevant anyway :P

I think you'll be much happier if you find someone you can really connect with. And I mean... intellectually, emotionally, etc. Not the physical "connection," if you know what i mean ;)

I'm such a dork. I wish you the best of luck!

We all want more when we find that special person that can give us more.

makes sence to me. When in my younger years meaningless sex was a kick that i actively looked for. Now in my older years my priorites are diffrent. went on a date last week, nice gal and i was thinking it might be worth seeing if we had any compability for a long term thing. She called me a few days later and was not interested in a romance, but was very interested in a sexual relationship, lol, years ago i would have been at her place before she hung up the phone. but i told her no thanks that wasnt what i was looking for. we decided to still be pals but without the benifits. i guess i worry to much about the gifts that just keep giving, STD. Just do what feels right to you and the hell with everyone else.

Not odd at all luv ~

It is called Wisdom ~ knowing what your true goal is and redefining how to reach it. Yep.. it's called Wisdom

Wishing you EVERY success & blessing,
in Love and Life

I'm thinking about changing mine to looking for marriage so I can weed out the players. Wonder if that will work. Hopefully it will scare em.