How do you change something you did that made someone so mad at you to where the'll go back to the way there were before you made that mistake.

I have a very big problem of not taking the blame for my actions and even though it's never something big it always ends up with my fiance getting mad at me I try to show her I love her and its like shes put up a wall around her I give her time to get over it, but its like she can't reaize I'm human and will make mistakes. and last and most important when that time comes around and shes in the mood, I'm always too tired or don't have enough energy is there something wrong with me.

Actions speak louder than words.

Time travel is possible with enough tequila.

It requires less Pot.

I wouldn't have either though.

If they love you they will forgive you as long as you stop doing what you are doing.

It is true, time helps heal all wounds, so give her time, but always make time for her, no matter how tired you think you may be. One other thing...I have learned 1st hand in life...think before you say or do anything, who will this hurt?, do I really want to do this to anyone?, would I want it done to me? If you can come up with no for an answer to all 3, then it must be you are about to do something good...

Well it depends on how big the mistake was. If it was minor a little smoozing might help, flowers, romancing her, saying you are sorry helps alot too.

If it's major, well you can't expect someone to just "get over it". Like the saying goes, "Time heals all wounds." And your time frame for getting past this will probably be alot different then hers so just hang in there and give her that time. But most of all, make sure you understand how much you hurt her and what the mistake meant to her. If you don't acknowledge that, then she's going to thing it really didn't matter to you and your "I'm sorry" wasn't really sincere.

I hope this helps.

Firstly, I have to point out that you cannot change what you did. All you can do is change how you act in the future, and express genuine remorse for the errors you made.

You say you give her time to "get over it".... try making sure she understands you 'get' what a big deal it is to her. Your actions are for you to fix, not for her to 'get over'. You cann't just say, 'gee, I'm sorry' and expect it to be all roses.

Think of it this way, little things add up quick, and continued disregard for things that are important to her mean she is not important to you. It is like a slap in the face.

And when 'that time' comes around, you'd want her regardless of how tired you are if your desire for her is really there. It is framework.

To read your post, it sounds like you aren't putting forth much consideration, effort, or energy into this relationship. I could be way off base and I hope I am, but this is the impression I've gotten. Good luck to you.