Humm well myself I'm not to good to pay and have plenty time. And have grabbed the check to have it taken away from me.

There is nothing wrong with a woman paying there is no rules nor is it in stone a man should pay all the time.

Hell I make more then some of the guys I have dated in the past.

Besides to me if they don't at least do something once in a while buy the concert tickets or buy all the stuff to fix a good meal and fix it or take the guy out to dinner and pay for it. I would have to question there motives myself.

Are they just out to get what they can? Do they expect you to do for them and don't return the favors?

If so sorry see ya Adios Amigo!!!!

You know the rules should be treat others as they treat you!!

You do things for others and those favors will be returned.

Sorry I want a giver also not just a receiver.

I think any relationship should be 50/50

First of all, either you have an incredible memory or you keep a heck of a calendar!!! Most men I know can barely remember what they did on the first date with their girlfriend, much less the exact number of times they have been out. I'm not sure if it's a good thing that you're keeping count or not, but it is definitely unique.

On to the actual topic, though... if you have been dating for any amount of time (and you probably have unless you go out every night) then there should be a certain balance established. My boyfriend paid for everything the first month or so we were together, but it made me feel very uncomfortable as an independant woman not contributing in some way. One morning I just pulled out the money and paid for breakfast, and it really made him feel special. Since then, we switch things up every now and then without any kind of specific "You pay this time, I'll pay next time" deal. It's more a give and take thing, which I believe all relationships should have.

On the other hand, some people have very traditional values and believe it is the "man's place" to pay. In the 21st century I really think that mindset is outdated and sexist. It also could be more about the way you asked than what you actually asked for. It sounds to me like you just casually asked if she could pick up the bill this time, not like you pressured or demanded anything.

Bottom line-- Your feelings are valid and if she can't understand that then maybe she is in it for the wrong reasons.

Lets just go back to the "original" way things were always done in this manner.....


Than man kills it... the woman cleans and cooks it!!!!

(Please note, there were no animals of any kind hurt in the making of this post..so nature freaks, please do not get your moss covered panties in a wad. )

DUMP HER!!!!!