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Warren123 Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 9	Mon 05/05/08 11:24 AM
I've been thinking and wanted some feedback on something. I am 21 and have never been in a serious relationship. I believe the longest one was a few months and that is it. I sometimes believe I rush into things with someone I am not truely attracted to and then realize this shortly after. Do you think it's bad for someone at my age to not have experienced something meaningful? A lot of people my age have had their ups and downs and at least know what to expect from things but I do not want to be totally in the dark in a relationship that could last. I'm also uncertain why I have no found someone I could be with for a substantial period of time. I see all my friends with women and everyone around me and it's not like I am any different so maybe I should open up to more types of people? If you could help answer this I would appriciate it very much.

wikkedlilgrrl Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 240	Mon 05/05/08 11:31 AM
sumtimes u just gotta relax and go with the flow maybe you are tryin to hard or maybe u just werent meant to have that experience yet life can be tricky i would say ( and im only 22 so take this with a grain of salt) but just relax live ur life and be open to whatever fate may have in store and when its meant to happen it will good luck

yankeesnut Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 415	Mon 05/05/08 11:31 AM
I think I am the female version of you. All my friends are in serious relationships and I've never had a real relationship. To sound even more like a loser, I didn't have my first kiss til I was 18... I guess you just have to wait it out and not worry about other people. You don't need someone to be happy, though it does help..hang in there!

punkchick Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 8	Mon 05/05/08 11:32 AM
Same thing happen's to me people use me then they dump me just happend to me the sob

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 05/05/08 11:32 AM
I've been thinking and wanted some feedback on something. I am 21 and have never been in a serious relationship. I believe the longest one was a few months and that is it. I sometimes believe I rush into things with someone I am not truely attracted to and then realize this shortly after. Do you think it's bad for someone at my age to not have experienced something meaningful? A lot of people my age have had their ups and downs and at least know what to expect from things but I do not want to be totally in the dark in a relationship that could last. I'm also uncertain why I have no found someone I could be with for a substantial period of time. I see all my friends with women and everyone around me and it's not like I am any different so maybe I should open up to more types of people? If you could help answer this I would appriciate it very much. No you are normal. No one has a clue until they hit at least 35 anyways......

SarahsF8 Joined Sat 10/06/07 Posts: 141	Mon 05/05/08 11:34 AM
Nah, I'm 22 and I've only had two relationships, one of which occurred before I was able to drive, so I'm not sure it even counts. The other only lasted a year. Whatever. I agree with you about the not rushing thing. So many people get themselves into such crap by feeling the NEED to have an S/O. I, too, am extremely picky. "You'll know when you find the right one" so I've been told (actually by my grandmother earlier this morning)--so it's okay. I suppose I encourage you to think for yourself and continue to have high standards which you are not willing to compromise.

punkchick Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 8	Mon 05/05/08 11:34 AM
I'm 26 and I've been use by guy's all mylife

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 11:36 AM
i think everyone is different.... and when the time comes it will come and u will know it..... be patient my son is your age the same thing with him . im thankful he is picky well he had one relationship for about 8 months . and my daughter i wish honestly she was more like that she is now 24 and been in a relationship since she was 14!!!!!strange how it works .. that both came from the same upbringing... and she is not picky enough!

MyrtleBeachDude Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 4028	Mon 05/05/08 11:36 AM
I've been thinking and wanted some feedback on something. I am 21 and have never been in a serious relationship. I believe the longest one was a few months and that is it. I sometimes believe I rush into things with someone I am not truely attracted to and then realize this shortly after. Do you think it's bad for someone at my age to not have experienced something meaningful? A lot of people my age have had their ups and downs and at least know what to expect from things but I do not want to be totally in the dark in a relationship that could last. I'm also uncertain why I have no found someone I could be with for a substantial period of time. I see all my friends with women and everyone around me and it's not like I am any different so maybe I should open up to more types of people? If you could help answer this I would appriciate it very much. No you are normal. No one has a clue until they hit at least 35 anyways...... or 46

Warren123 Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 9	Mon 05/05/08 11:42 AM
I appriciate the quick responses. It's just tough watching everything happen around you and you missing out. Some one told me it's not a bad thing because you haven't had a really terrible relationship but I don't know about that. I guess be patient and be myself and it'll happen.

yankeesnut Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 415	Mon 05/05/08 11:45 AM
who knows..maybe you'll meet someone on here!

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 05/05/08 11:47 AM
I've been thinking and wanted some feedback on something. I am 21 and have never been in a serious relationship. I believe the longest one was a few months and that is it. I sometimes believe I rush into things with someone I am not truely attracted to and then realize this shortly after. Do you think it's bad for someone at my age to not have experienced something meaningful? A lot of people my age have had their ups and downs and at least know what to expect from things but I do not want to be totally in the dark in a relationship that could last. I'm also uncertain why I have no found someone I could be with for a substantial period of time. I see all my friends with women and everyone around me and it's not like I am any different so maybe I should open up to more types of people? If you could help answer this I would appriciate it very much. No you are normal. No one has a clue until they hit at least 35 anyways...... or 46 or 42!!!

Brenda_Darling Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 3696	Mon 05/05/08 11:48 AM
I'm only 19 and i think that i rushed into things too fast which only leads to heart ache...i leap before i look and the next thing i know, they are either obssesing over me or they dont care. and either way leads to bad results.. time is always for the best. and i finally learned that one. just be urself and get to know ppl..its the best way

rush2001 Joined Thu 04/17/08 Posts: 2577	Mon 05/05/08 11:48 AM
I'm 24 and i've never been in a serious relationship either.

Brenda_Darling Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 3696	Mon 05/05/08 11:51 AM
I appriciate the quick responses. It's just tough watching everything happen around you and you missing out. Some one told me it's not a bad thing because you haven't had a really terrible relationship but I don't know about that. I guess be patient and be myself and it'll happen. i know how that feels. i look at my best friend in her relationship every time we hang out and it hurts cuz they have something that I want. but i know it'll come in time. and to just be happy with amazing friends and family

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 05/05/08 11:58 AM
You're really young, you have plenty of time. I'm 35 and never had a relationship at all, let alone a "serious" one. So yeah, it happens, good luck to you.