OK,,,enjoy the RIDE,,lol.

NOW,,is THIS PLACE a door way to a bed, AND A HEART?

OR, A door way to a heart that LEADS to a bed?


I just had a friends here, who have talked together for like a year..
THEN, one set of friends MEET,,,and ONE doesn't want the other no-more???

Then the other set of friends, one just STOPS writing,CALLING, and doesn't give her ANY explanations as to WHY??

But ALL were close by emails and telephone weekly??

It just SUCKS to have THEM go through this hurt and feel bad w/o even knowing WHY????

Sorry to say this but this just sounds like life to me.

yes IT DOES,,,and "THATS" sad,,,,,,,TO ME? Anyway?

Why can't a guy tell a lady hey lets see how we are in the sack first THEN LETS SEE HOW "WE" GO FROM THERE??

And a LADY say hey, let me see if I like your SEX ,,and THEN WE'RE talk about FOREVER!!!

THAT,,,,makes a hell-of-alot-more-sense to ME.
Than "ACTING" like LOVE is ALREADY in the BOTH of YOU...Before experience sex with each other...and "THEN" finding the "OTHER" as NOT WHAT YOUR LOOKING FOR!!!!!

Just my thoughts I guess....lol

Lily exactly the message I got

Ladies and gentlemen, YOU have heard THIS here first by ME.....lol

Dating SITES produce FAR MORE PAIN, than LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO, im NOT feeling any pains right NOW about me or MY LIFE.

BUT,,Typing, then talking with them.
Then meeting THEM, and have BOTH your worlds fold in-ward......

THIS is getting to be a CONSTANT, "THING" to have happen???WTF???

Let me ask ALL OF YOU...

WHY? do YOU feel this happens to so many on these sites?????

Wow, what a keeper....

See "REAL" eludes the mentality of ALL who "LIVE" this.....
But NEVER REALLY WANT TO SAY "THEY" DO,lol

Im saying that if anyone """""""REALLY"""""" feels that they LOVE another person...

THAT LOVE SHOULD CARRY OVER """""""ANY""""" indifferences
that """SEX""" could bring about....RIGHT?????

So "THEN" NOW,,,,THEY (whoever) just wanted to get laid to begin with,,,,and "NEVER" TRULLY FELT ANY DAMM REAL LOVE FOR THAT PERSON...Right?????

Terry -- I see the "distance" and the "isolationism" as creating a sort of ethereal, "unreal" universe, a sort of one-dimensional cartoon reality where people don't have actual thoughts or feelings because they only exist as images on a screen. There's a tendency to minimize (or neutralize) the inherent "humanity" of someone who can only be discerned as a little tiny square picture of a cat or a sign or a pair of lips 932 miles away. "Who is THAT?" "Nobody -- an illusion. Someone I once thought I might like to know, but...."

The intrinsic reality of unreality.

Be who you want to be -- or be who everyone else wants you to be. Or be no one. In the end, it makes no difference. Because you're not you, and they are not them. We're all misperceptions of incomplete comprehension.

The reason I no longer make any attempt to meet people on dating sites....

IDK, you're yelling at me....

Guess what here's how life happens, you meet people, sometimes you click, sometimes you don't. Sometimes it is fully cerebral, sometimes it is fully sexual, but if you don't click in both arenas why bother to continue the relationship?

Lex - sometimes posts like yours make me really wonder. Why do people truly have such hard times meeting people? Is it only online that they face such hard times? Does this also apply to people they may meet at a supermarket for example?

But it pissses me off when one person can say to another with GREAT certainty, that 'they' LOVE them,,,but then "they" drop them if the sex is not there......so in FACT...'They' couldn't have really LOVED them .
They just wanted to TRY THEM,,,,in bed,,,,

I wouldn't want to overgeneralize here -- I suspect there are different answers for different people in different situations -- as for me, I can say I live in the wrong place to meet people,
and yet I still do....and the people I meet in real life have more of a "presence," more of a "substance," simply by virtue of their tangible, proximal, visible existence....in the same room.

Ten years ago -- that seems like such a long time -- I thought I would try a dating site. It seemed like such a great idea at the time -- access to literally millions of new people, all over the world.

What I hadn't foreseen was that "access" to people on the other side of the world would carry its own logistical difficulties. How involved can you get with someone you have little to no chance of ever seeing in person?

There are some great people on this site, and maybe one or two on other sites (although I wouldn't put a lot of money on that last part) -- people whose inner natures shine through, on the screen, even from thousands of miles away --

But -- reality dictates limitations. All of the best people, in my experience, are very very far away. The people nearby, the ones I might actually have had a chance to meet in person, to get to know on a level that transcends words on a screen, will not talk to me. There is some sort of thematic "wall" that makes anything beyond cybersocializing impossible.

And that's OK. I have yet to run into anyone here (or on any site, really, since 1999) I would consider truly datable. That's more a matter of my own preferences and deal-breakers than it is a reflection (or an aspersion) on any site, though.

An experiment failed is still a piece of knowledge -- if one chooses to learn from it. In that way, it is not a failure.

Lex - sometimes posts like yours make me really wonder. Why do people truly have such hard times meeting people? Is it only online that they face such hard times? Does this also apply to people they may meet at a supermarket for example?

Can't say I agree wholeheartedly because I am the same face to face as I am while I am online.

I could be naive and think there are 'some' others that are as I, and if not, I see it as their loss not mine.

Thanks for responding Lex and not being offended (was never my intent). I can understand your position but like I said, I may truly be too naive.

It takes a lot to offend me (inasmuch as I think "offense" is more the decision of the one who feels "offended," in most cases) -- and a well thought out, clear, and utterly relevant post -- as yours always are -- is simply not going to push me over that line!