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Topic: Am I nuts?
beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 05:23 PM
Hey i'm living with my ex right now as we speak..long story..i should be out by july..but we r great friends and yes dating has been an issue..u might want to talk to him about that.. i think its great that ex's can be good friends, especially with kids involoved..my kids have been great with me here and they know i have to leave soon I agree......we are better friends now then when we were married.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 05/02/08 05:24 PM
I wouldn't do it, no way. I'd rather live in a cardboard box. Outdoor plumbing does kinda suck though... you oughta know

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 05:24 PM
the emphasis should be how the kids can handle/adjust to this ~ it may be confusing to them. kids first. They love the idea and know we are not getting back together.

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 05:26 PM
My ex husband and I are going to lease the house I'm in together next month for a year. We have three children together and get along really well. What do you think? Would you lease a house with your ex? Do you think this will keep me from having a boyfriend ? What will you do when he moves his girlfriend in, or have her stay over, And how is this set up healthy for the children.What choices are they going to make for themselves, by the examples your setting? And exactly what example am I setting? That Mom and Dad can still be friends and help each other out. Wow is that a bad example......whatever brian

FaithfulOne78 Joined Mon 11/19/07 Posts: 15313	Fri 05/02/08 05:27 PM
I wouldn't do it, no way. I'd rather live in a cardboard box. I agree with kitten..no way in hell would I ever do that!

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76452	Fri 05/02/08 05:30 PM
Well my son and his ex just told me in Jan they were going to do this same thing. They found a real nice 3 bedroom house moved in it lasted less then two months shsh they were at each other necks. Now he lives in the house and she moved out with a friend. Ohhh well I did not get into it told them it was up to them but...they better make things pleasant around my grand daughter. For then I would step in lol

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Fri 05/02/08 05:37 PM
why the divorce????? how long ago??? do you remember anything from it? ok...kids are resiliant so they will bounce back from whatever you decide...its ok to give them false hope that they will have a whole family again..and when they take the blame for it not working out...your reassurance will be all they need to know..... and I can promise you they will never carry any of this into their own lives ...or the lives of your grand babies...jmo

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Fri 05/02/08 05:45 PM
I'll try again. What's your user name?

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 05:49 PM
why the divorce????? how long ago??? do you remember anything from it? ok...kids are resiliant so they will bounce back from whatever you decide...its ok to give them false hope that they will have a whole family again..and when they take the blame for it not working out...your reassurance will be all they need to know..... and I can promise you they will never carry any of this into their own lives ...or the lives of your grand babies...jmo Fasle hope? They KNOW we are not getting back together. They love the fact that we have been good friends since the divorce which was over 5 yrs ago. Take your condemnation somewhere else, because I don't receive it.

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 05:51 PM
I'll try again. What's your user name? He didn't cause me the pain. Someone else did.

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Fri 05/02/08 05:53 PM
So just go for it and commit yourself to no dating for that year. I wouldn't date ANYONE who was still living with someone they slept with... together or not. I don't know any sane person that would. Unless they weren't into you that much.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Fri 05/02/08 05:55 PM
I'll try again. What's your user name? He didn't cause me the pain. Someone else did. My apologies then. Still a bad idea though.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 05/02/08 05:57 PM
My ex husband and I are going to lease the house I'm in together next month for a year. We have three children together and get along really well. What do you think? Would you lease a house with your ex? Do you think this will keep me from having a boyfriend ? Been THERE,,,done that,,,IT won't work! That simple,,,that is,,,,"UNLESS" you BOTH get back together,lol,lol.. Otherwise,,,NO,,,jealiusness, loving to love YOU(BOTH)and then FEELING connected agin... Or,,ONLY ONE wants to TRY again? then,,nightmares,lol,lol But,,,good luck on YOUR thoughts and desires to FEEL this for your self.....

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Fri 05/02/08 06:04 PM
um WHAT??? are you serious? do you need a place to live that bad? I have a place to live. He is moving in with me. Him and my daughter. OK I am truely sorry and apoligize to you......I should have read more closely....that is one way to get around a custody agreement..... Does anyone know what stock symbols zoloft,prozac,paxil or effexor are traded under.....I'm going to invest now

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 06:13 PM
um WHAT??? are you serious? do you need a place to live that bad? I have a place to live. He is moving in with me. Him and my daughter. OK I am truely sorry and apoligize to you......I should have read more closely....that is one way to get around a custody agreement..... Does anyone know what stock symbols zoloft,prozac,paxil or effexor are traded under.....I'm going to invest now My daughter is NINETEEN ...no need for a custody agreement. You are boring me

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Fri 05/02/08 06:23 PM
um WHAT??? are you serious? do you need a place to live that bad? I have a place to live. He is moving in with me. Him and my daughter. OK I am truely sorry and apoligize to you......I should have read more closely....that is one way to get around a custody agreement..... Does anyone know what stock symbols zoloft,prozac,paxil or effexor are traded under.....I'm going to invest now My daughter is NINETEEN ...no need for a custody agreement. You are boring me ^ ^ ^ ^ PSSSST... YOU MAY WANT TO CHECK INTO THESE MEDS FOR YOUR SELF..... i'm sure with your life on track now you can move up from cashier to head of the deli....

steelersgirltina Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 4792	Fri 05/02/08 06:24 PM Edited by steelersgirltina on Fri 05/02/08 06:25 PM
just wondering why you asked the question? are you having second thougths? And you did name the topic AM I NUTS?? Why did you ask if you made your decision??

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 06:25 PM
um WHAT??? are you serious? do you need a place to live that bad? I have a place to live. He is moving in with me. Him and my daughter. OK I am truely sorry and apoligize to you......I should have read more closely....that is one way to get around a custody agreement..... Does anyone know what stock symbols zoloft,prozac,paxil or effexor are traded under.....I'm going to invest now My daughter is NINETEEN ...no need for a custody agreement. You are boring me ^ ^ ^ ^ PSSSST... YOU MAY WANT TO CHECK INTO THESE MEDS FOR YOUR SELF..... i'm sure with your life on track now you can move up from cashier to head of the deli.... I'm a teacher as well..........how about you give your life to Jesus

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 06:27 PM
just wondering why you asked the question? are you having second thougths? And you did name the topic AM I NUTS?? Why did you ask if you made your decision?? haven't quite made my decision yet....haven't signed a lease.

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 05/02/08 06:32 PM
um WHAT??? are you serious? do you need a place to live that bad? I have a place to live. He is moving in with me. Him and my daughter. OK I am truely sorry and apoligize to you......I should have read more closely....that is one way to get around a custody agreement..... Does anyone know what stock symbols zoloft,prozac,paxil or effexor are traded under.....I'm going to invest now My daughter is NINETEEN ...no need for a custody agreement. You are boring me ^ ^ ^ ^ PSSSST... YOU MAY WANT TO CHECK INTO THESE MEDS FOR YOUR SELF..... i'm sure with your life on track now you can move up from cashier to head of the deli.... People who put others down have very low self esteem. Are you suggesting I take the meds you already take? No thanks...Jesus is my helper....not drugs. If I need anything I will run to Him.