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Topic: Do you believe
Jim519's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:30 AM




Maybe I am wrong...but "my" perception of being involved is commitment,...being in a relationship.

That involves day to day interactions, being in society together, experience new things and places, interact with family, sexual relations, being able to call that person and get together within an hour to do something...

I just dont see how you can do that online? That's not possible. I see the online dating as a tool to start conversation with someone local, then meet up and start getting to know one another...I cant get to know someone as I would see fit online...

There are many people..even on THIS site..talked online,talked on phone,fell in love,met and married.So yes..online stuff does work..it has yet to work for me but it does.


Not saying it doesnt work at all, People have met, gotten married so on....But the site was the planting of the seed and they met up and are together in real life

What I have seen is people committing to each other, sending engagement rings and so on, without ever meeting! That is just crazy


Yes some of it is unreal, but some of it can be very nice as well. Knowing someone is interested is a great feeling inside.


I agree, it's a great feeling. There a few I have met on here that we wish we could meet up...But it's just not possible between work and being a single parent. Cant and wont move, and travel time just doesnt fit in the schedule...

Just because I have someone on here interested in me, doesnt mean I wont go on a date with another woman, meet other women, so on....Im not going to be exclusive to that....

Nurseguy08's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:33 AM

In Reply to : I will never understand being "involved" online..noway How does that work

I question that too????noway ohwell love brokenheart



I met someone online, got to know them, then finally did a meet in a neutral place a coule times. Ended up being together three years, so I think you can meet someone ok, but you have to get that personal contact to see how it goes.

joycro53's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:50 AM





Maybe I am wrong...but "my" perception of being involved is commitment,...being in a relationship.

That involves day to day interactions, being in society together, experience new things and places, interact with family, sexual relations, being able to call that person and get together within an hour to do something...

I just dont see how you can do that online? That's not possible. I see the online dating as a tool to start conversation with someone local, then meet up and start getting to know one another...I cant get to know someone as I would see fit online...

There are many people..even on THIS site..talked online,talked on phone,fell in love,met and married.So yes..online stuff does work..it has yet to work for me but it does.


Not saying it doesnt work at all, People have met, gotten married so on....But the site was the planting of the seed and they met up and are together in real life

What I have seen is people committing to each other, sending engagement rings and so on, without ever meeting! That is just crazy


Yes some of it is unreal, but some of it can be very nice as well. Knowing someone is interested is a great feeling inside.


I agree, it's a great feeling. There a few I have met on here that we wish we could meet up...But it's just not possible between work and being a single parent. Cant and wont move, and travel time just doesnt fit in the schedule...

Just because I have someone on here interested in me, doesnt mean I wont go on a date with another woman, meet other women, so on....Im not going to be exclusive to that....


I wish you the very best in your search.

BlueskyJ's photo
Sun 04/27/08 07:59 AM

when you are involved with someone online if it is real, or do you second guess yourself?? If he says all the things you want to hear, and sounds genuine, do you second guess yourself?

second guess all u want...u just never know until u meet the person ohwell

Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:08 AM

Ok, here's my story...
A few years ago, I met someone online. :heart: We got serious fast and by the time we met in person, we were already making wedding plans...
Several years older, and one fatherless baby richer, I have taken the hard lesson I learned to heart. brokenheart
I think it's a must to meet the person in real life before moving into anything serious...at least for me! It's a whole lot easier to be on your best behavior through email and on the phone. The true test is being around the other person in the flesh, especially when you have little guys who may push their patience...
Oh, and BTW, I have met jerks in real life too, so it really has nothing to do with meeting them online.



Actually, this lesson here is applicable to meeting people in real life as well. Its just as easy to be on your best behavior while in the dating process, as it is through email and on the phone.

The true test is living with someone, and that can remain the only test, and I fully recommend LIVING with a person for atleast a year or two before ever becoming completely commited.

Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:11 AM

I do, I never get too squirrely over someone online. But then again, my experience online so far has not been that great. They're either complete psychopath or come in weighing at 300+ pounds when their profile says average. It's safe to say, I have my doubts from the get go.



To be fair, there is no "definition" of average, so the term is left completely up to ones own self perception. Knowing many overweight people, few ever will admit they are simply obese, and continue to actually believe they are not "that" bad.

To further draw this out, considering the average American right now IS obese, it is probably logical to define obese as "average", even though it might not be what healthy weight individuals may consider "average".

Citizen_Joe's photo
Sun 04/27/08 12:44 PM

when you are involved with someone online if it is real, or do you second guess yourself?? If he says all the things you want to hear, and sounds genuine, do you second guess yourself?


I believe unless proven otherwise, I should consider this site and others like it for entertainment purposes only, unless conditions prove otherwise. What's neat is that in this day and age, we can break outselves out of isolation just by writing a letter or chatting, knowing the other person can receive it instantly. It doesn't, however, replace good ol' fashioned face to face contact with people, and I balance my time here working from home with leaving home and being a friend to someone.

Dontwastmytimebabe21's photo
Mon 04/28/08 12:55 PM
noway

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Mon 04/28/08 12:59 PM

when you are involved with someone online if it is real, or do you second guess yourself?? If he says all the things you want to hear, and sounds genuine, do you second guess yourself?


It's not real until you actually meet and spend time with that person. Anyone will write whatever the other wants to hear. But in person actions speak louder than words.

Torylynn's photo
Wed 04/30/08 02:17 PM
I met someone special through here and we have met...and everything in letters was the same in person...but it was different in person...you have to be the judge of that...go with heart or even ur gut

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Wed 04/30/08 05:28 PM
Edited by angelindarkness on Wed 04/30/08 05:29 PM

when you are involved with someone online if it is real, or do you second guess yourself?? If he says all the things you want to hear, and sounds genuine, do you second guess yourself?

You'd be a fool not to.

Its not real till its real.

CBBRYANT's photo
Wed 04/30/08 05:46 PM
Go with your inner instincts.

Single_Rob's photo
Wed 04/30/08 05:48 PM

when you are involved with someone online if it is real, or do you second guess yourself?? If he says all the things you want to hear, and sounds genuine, do you second guess yourself?
yup, I sure did

mermaid61's photo
Wed 04/30/08 05:50 PM
In my opinion can't really "date" on line. You can get to know the person but to date actually have to be with the person. For me anyway.

Lily0923's photo
Wed 04/30/08 05:52 PM

when you are involved with someone online if it is real, or do you second guess yourself?? If he says all the things you want to hear, and sounds genuine, do you second guess yourself?

I second quess if he says that IRL too....

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