Maybe you're giving too much information too early for some of them to handle?

Well the internet is all I got.

and youre very astute

i guess im lucky im a fully developed hermaphrodite.....

Ok..so how do I hide the fact that I'm in a wheelchair?..just don't use my chair and crawl up to them when I meet them?

People prefer who they prefer. Theres seven billion freakin people on the planet. More than enough to find ONE. Youd think so anyway. Maybe the problem lies elsewhere.

First of all there is nothing wrong with you and if someone cant see who you are for get them. There a wast of time...


I have to say this but most people on the net, have no clue on how to communicate or even have a real conversation so what does that lead to? Sex,flirting,head games,or you have the ones that don't want to put the effert into and think that who ever there talking to has to chase them and do all the work. I found out that most, not all but most don't know how to handle people that are real and know how to enjoy life for what it has to offer. Hell that would mean they would have to start actually liking someone and oppening up and we can't have that now can we

You are so right shadow

It's a shame how many mindless people that are in this world...

Had to add this lol this is the perfect place for them i guess. people that hid behind ther comp.

You shouldnt have to hide who you are...I agree with Shadow's post, this is a wild venue for trying to meet someone genuine..99% of the time count on freaks, weirdos and loosers..enjoy the ride, dont take it too seriously or personally and wait for that 1% to arrive, when it does, then you'll know its "magic time".

I have several friends that have found love online and even here..I see it almost daily that people met here and are now dating or headed to the alter..I was hoping I'd be one of those people but I am prepared to live alone because I know that I will.

maybe your putting undue pressures on yourself on finding that one.

relax, enjoy the ride and go with the flow.

quick question and hope I dont offend you, but why assume it's because you're in a wheel chair? or is this not an assumption but a fact?

I don't assume it's my chair..they tell me it is..One guy I met online..I didn't tell right off that I was in a wheelchair because back then I thought it was better that they get to see ME and get to know that there is more to me than just a chair..so when he asked me out on a date I told him that we should just meet first then go from there..well he came to my house..got half way out of his car..looked at me and got back in it and drove away..the next time I saw him was when he logged into his IM..he didn't say anything..just got online did whatever he was doing then logged off..so I blocked him..no word from him since..and another guy that I talked to flat out said "I don't date handicapped chicks"..and I should have smacked him for callin me handicapped..I hate that word.

I hear you, I have read your prior posts and know you are a confident and strong woman - on the positive side, screw them their loss on meeting and befriending a beautiful woman as yourself, especially if they cannot see past the chair...

you didnt need them to occupy more time than they already did and even that was too much

keep your chin up, hell run over some toes

Lady you are not ment to be alone and when someone is being realo with you, you will see it. Real friends look beyond whats on the outside and if you can't have that friendship. Then how can anything else work? I use to think that i wasn't going to find anyone that would see me for me, yes i have met someone and what i found out is that i was looking for what i wanted and not what would make mne happy. Now i am talking with someone and we are alot a like, but we haven't met each other so knowing that and knowing the way i think. For us to even to get the feeling of knowing someone as a close feeling. We have to spend that time with them, the face to face reality. Yes were really good friends and id say she really knows me, although i know as she does. This is the net and there is only so much you can know about someone being on it. One thing i have learnd is take my time with someone and not do as i did this last relationship i was in. We met a couple times and moved to fast and part of that was my falt being alone for a few years. So you start missing that effection, the attention, the feeling of being wanted so i jumped at it with out really looking.

So in all of this. Take your time and in time someone will come along. Not when you expect it but it will happen when it's ment to be. just keep being you and being true to yourself and things will fall into place

I am being true to myself..that's why I quit now trying to find anybody and learn to be satisfied with my life as it is..With my mom and brother..and with me being in and out of the hospital and being cut on for no reason other than the docs want to go on vacation and are gonna use me..the human cutting board..to get there.