i believe what a gal told me one time to be very true.
she had said that it seemed to be a family tradition in her family that
after a child was born either mom or dad packed up and left the other
one holding the dirty diapers.she wanted to get married to me at the
time but my divorce from my first wife was not finalized.she wound up
finding a TRUE father for her unborn child.i know for a fact that it was
not my child.she was 2 months along when i met her.she had a healthy
birth. baby boy.9 lbs 2 ozs.she named him after me.i think if you are
not ready for commitment then DO NOT BOTHER HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX MUCH
LESS SEX.sex is just more than pleasing your internal hunger.it is about
commitment of 2 people that want to be together.i have a problem in
reality with 2 people of the same sex getting married and/or adopting a
child into that vile life.all it teaches our children that it is ok to
be that way. we are supposed to set a good example for them not a bad
one.

oh by the way this is round 3.of venting for me.

very good venting joe, better to vent here than on someone's
head........I prefer dating and casual sex as opposed to marriage at
least for the time being. I have kids and tried commitment a few times
and now it's hard because we hardly see eye to eye on the whole
punishment routine for the kids. So as for right now, me and my kids are
better off if I go the casual dating sex route instead of commitment.

to each thier own i guess.but what example does it teach the "little
people"?

so very true Joe....but as a single mom i find most men arent ready or
willing to accept the whole package...they want to have the fun but
usually dont want to accept he rkids from a previous relationship as
part of the deal so its all fun and games to the men....the kids are the
ones getting hurt the most in the process......so please men.....think
more with your minds and hearts when getting involved with a single mom

to all the "men" that read this and do not post.if you can not accept
the whole "package" then why bother? to all the women who read this:if
he can not accept the"whole package" then he is not worth it.if i was to
go to the point of if a gal had 10 kids and i said to her "sorry but you
have kids i do not want an instant family" i would be kicked to the
curb. fast.so remember if you can not handle the idea of an instant
family then why bother?in my family(my step dads)if you don't want the
responsibility then say to the person"sorry but i am not comfortable
with this.let me warm up to the idea first.".a man is not a man if he
cannot accept your "little people".

whats with the crack about same sex couples!

i have no problems with 2 adults doing what they want in the privacy of
the home but not in public please.MY OPINION IS MY OPINION.if you do not
like it too bad so sad.and also suck it up buttercup.

joe get a life!

heres my opinion sometimes(most the time) better to live & let live, no?

hi Joe hope you find someone you sound like a great guy

so...let me see if i understand correctly. it's better for children to
stay in the system, bounce back and forth between foster homes and
orphanages...than to be in a loving environment with two loving parents
that just happen to be of the same sex?

I'd rather teach them those values than a fighting lifestyle and to
think that fighting with your mate or taking their bull**** is the way
it is supposed to be, of course I'd rather show them that a whole family
is the way to go. Also, I do not frag them along or tell them of my
affairs so they learn nothing of it.

frag=drag

I do not condone the gay or lesbian lifestyle neither but I also do not
condemn those who choose to live that way, they condemn themselves lol

To Terisa:
As a single father of an 8 year-old, of whom I have have full-time
custody, I take offense to your zeroing on how men are slackers.
My daughter's mother decided not play a role in her life so SHE could
go out partying all the time, waking up God knows where.
My whole day consists of making sure my daughter is taken care of,
without ever having time for myself. I'm an at-home dad and also work
from home. So, I'm the daycare, the father & the friend for my daughter
when she's not in school.
And guess what? I enjoy being a father way more than not being one.
So, about your remark about "most men" not being able to handle the
role of being a parent, you are sorely mistaken.
You wouldn't believe how many women I've met that don't or won't take
care of their children. Most likely, it's an equal situation no matter
what sex the parent is.
So, c'mon. No more male-bashing!

Guys that take care of their kids are kings in my book...YOU ROCK KEV!

As for same sex couples. One is born that way, it is not a choice. They
are loving human beings just like any other person on this earth. Their
presence on this earth is not against God's will. Did you ever stop
judging long to consider that how one person treats another human being
is what is on the line here? Maybe the good Lord wants to see if we can
really practice what rant..........thou shall not cast the first stone!

Thanks Misty! Us dads are making a comeback!

im a single aprent myself trying to be mom and dad we have it rough but
our children are a gift from God AND SHOULD BE CHERISHED EVERY WAKING
MOMENT.

I support you 100%