thanks

Joe1973: Men are raising kids by themselves because of the women gaining
more power in the workplace,which in turn has given men more rights at
the "homeplace". For me,my kids are all I have...I don't have a "live
in" or a "sugar momma" taking care of me,so in turn,I will fight to have
equal access to my kids. Is equal access the best for my kids? Hell yes!
Fathers instill security and self-esteem in their daughter's lives and
also a role model for their sons to live by. After growing up with a
alcolholic Father who later committed suicide,I decided it was important
to make a change in the family legacy and be a committed Dad who
is/always will be there for my two kids. Women come and go,but your kids
will always be with you in even if just in spirit till they die. I just
can't seem to do it any differently until I meet a woman who shows me a
since of :committment,which is truly a rarity in today's world.

Have experienced it all,

1. Married because child was coming.
2. Divorced to make life for kids better
3. Remarried for love & had better elationship w/kids hers
& mine.
4. Death made me a single parent, to hers & mine.
5. Member of the mixed family, alternative life style.
6. Grandpa to all

We all need to be the BEST people we poss. can. Accepting others as
they are. We are all intitled to a PERSONAL opinion. This doesn't mean
we are right or wrong. It is just how we think. Fortunately, this
country allows us to express that opinion. It should be done POLITELY,
with RESPECT for ALL others, even if they DISAGREE. Differences are
what make the world go around. I think opinions can also be stated
CALMLY.

hmmm did i miss something here? this is a dating site and as we all
know, there are divorced moms and dads here, logic tells me that YES
there are children involved(who by the way I think are the most
important thing in the world)so if you don't want to have the so called
instant family why talk to the other person.

and terisa i agree men should think with a different head, but so should
those single moms. it's not all about fulfilling yours or his needs,
look a little further down the road.

kevology, my hat's off to you, that little girl doesn't know how special
she really is. i have 2 daughters who i take on all my free time
also.because they are my world.

I just want to add that it is not just lonliness that is the nightmare.
And if you think about it, we won't truly feel lonely till our little
ones fly the nest. The other struggle is where is my money???????? I'll
be rich in a few years. One day I have it and the next day it is gone.
My daughter plays club volleyball and is a gifted golfer and my son is
an incredible drummer. Two incomes would be nice here. Volleyball alone
was $680 which would've been fine until I found out I need
bifocals...yikes. Have been having SERIOUS headaches. So tak on an
additional $496 dollars. I had to get some special additions. Anyway
that will be A LOT of extra aerobic classes to teach. The only thing
that helps me sleep like a baby at night and also have energy to teach
all of those extra classes on the side is that I can't put a pricetag on
what I feel when she nails that ball over the net or he is in the middle
of a rhythmic jam session. So technically I am not lonely because I'm
constantly surrounded by my kids and other people as I try to keep this
little boat above water! Cheers to everyone else that is doing the
same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and you know what misty, when they are grown and gone you'll never want
to trade those memories for anything. it's just the small things in life
that are really important. i'm on the other end, i pay big support, but
have a home and my own vehicle which i struggle to keep. but it is all
worth it in the end, because i know i will be ok. i'm not looking to be
rich, i have a brother who is and won't ask him for a dime. i'll do it
on my own or not at all.

i know what i go through, i can just imagine what a single mom is
thinking .....hang in there it will all work out.

I am like you Slow as I do not ask for help. Thankfully I am surrounded
by friends and angels. Both of my sisters are married and between the
three of us we have 8 kids. Well, we get together every Sunday for a
family dessert time. Tonight we were planning all kinds of things we
could do to spice them up. They decided we all needed to go camping over
Easter, easy for the older one to say with her camper in the
backyard...March is rodeo time here in Houston......and yes that takes
money too. We'll go camping and everything (in a little tent) but I have
to admit there are times that I wish I was married so I could have a
little help along the way. I just bought a house last year and
WOW......hard to keep up all on my own. I'm really not complaining as I
know that I am very blessed but man this was an expensive weekend! Thank
for your encouragement!

I AM A SINGLE MOM WITH 2 KIDS. I HAD MY DAUGHTER WHEN I WAS 18 AND I
JUST GAVE BIRTH TO MY SON ON NOV. 7TH. BOTH OF THEM HAVE THE SAME DAD
BUT HE HAS BEEN IN AND OUT OF OUR DAUGHTERS LIFE SINCE SHE WAS BORN AND
NOW HE HAS A SON AND HE STILL DOESN'T WANT TO GROW UP. WORKING AND
RAISING THESE KIDS ON MY OWN MIGHT NOT BE THE EASIEST THING IN THE
WORLD, BUT I KNOW THAT IT WILL MAKE ME A STRONGER PERSON. AND I HAVE THE
POWER TO RAISE THEM TO HAVE GOOD JUDGMENT AND TO BE RESPECTFUL.
I ALSO AGREE WITH HAVING CASUAL RELATIONSHIPS WHEN YOUR A SINGLE PARENT.
I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A NEW DADDY JUST SOMEONE TO HAVE A LITTLE FUN WITH
EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE.

lynnlee i have to agree raising kids on your own isn't easey I have 3
but as far as dateing it is good for you I pursonaly do but I keep the
men away from my kids they don't come to my home EVER unless there is on
I find that I want to share my babys with. The kids din't need the
thought of a man in there lives unless it is really going to happen.

Kev, you do rock !!! I myself am a single stay at home dad and
everything for my kids.(kids 15, 14, and 3) And to top that I was put on
disability about four years ago after a major neck surgery. I have two
of my three boy living with me 14, and 3 yr old) I would even bet my
oldest would be living with me too if his b_tch of a mom would let me
see him. ( and need I say that I have been late on my child support for
him three times in over 12 yrs)And to put it bluntly I wish I could find
a "good girl" or "single mom" that could handle my whole package. Here's
a good one for all the real men & true dads-------- "Believing rightly
in your heart will make you righteous" (Romans 10:9-11)------

To all the dads who are taking care of the children, you are really good
men. I have two boys and their dad decide that after the first child
there should be no more. But that was a little to late since I was
already pregant with the second one. He left 15 days before christmas
when my youngest was 15months old. He has never paid child support and
never asks about my youngest. Now it has been 3years since he has even
talked to my oldest and when he writes letters it is to ask to send
money to him in jail. As if, I would. He has never even sent a birthday
or christmas card. I have provide for these beautiful children and last
year I thought I had found someone who was great for me and my children
and he died of a heart attack in July. So now I am back to be mom and
dad and the children are now healed and back to be kids.

not sure how raising children automatically makes a man a good
one...just because he has custody does NOT make him an immediate good
father, same as with women...

if they are drunk half the time and on drugs, they are NOT good parents.
if they abuse, they are NOT good parents...regardless of whether they
are THERE or not.

it's amusing to me to see all the platitudes that are thrown out on
forums...because it takes more than presence to make a parent. in some
cases (like with MY ex)...he's doing the best thing in the world by NOT
being there.

i have five daughters three oldest are my xhusband got custidy i
married him and was there mother for 15 yrs and he is a good dad and we
never heared from thier mother again. so cheers to the fathers!!!!! my
daughters18 16 16 12 10!! and im proud of them all no matter
what!! let her try to show up now!!!!!

hey brighteyes, how are you

i'm happy ans haveing o good day . for the first time. i feel my input
is a help and to remember there are 2 sides of any
story!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Being a single parent is tough but rewarding. It doesnt matter if your a
woman or a man you still face all the same questions, fears and
problems.
I admire any person who sticks it out stands by their children and does
the best they can with what they are given. My two older kids are out on
their own now. My daughter is going to college to be a Dr. and my older
son is in the US Air Force.
I couldn't be more proud of us all.We were thrown into a tough
assignment and we all kept on doing what had to be done. There were
sacrifices on everyones part-but the love is so strong I wouldnt trade
one bit of any of it.My youngest son is going to be 16 this April and he
is now the man of the house and he looks after his momma and I know he
will be a fine man.
I feel sorry for the parent who walks away. Who never gets to have the
honor to know what kind of person these kids are or share in their
victories or cry with them over their losses.
It is that parent who has lost out on a wonderful experience to watch
that child grow into a fine adult. I am a better person for having had
my children in my life. Bravo to all you single parents male and
female.... You should be proud.

You rock Kev..........You are the first single dad that I have met and
you sound like a great guy. I am a single mom and find it hard to
remember that not all guys are jerks. Every guy that I have met or dated
has not been able to handle the responsibility of kids. So I think it is
wonderful that you can.

Nikki

I agree in regsrda to the same sex marriage and child raising. That
definately distorts a childs perception on life and what is right from
wrong. Society has a twisted yet effective way of changing our teachings
as it is.

I am a single mother of 5 children. Ages 15, 13, 10,6, and 5. I work a
fulltime job as a Dialysis tech and recieve minimal child support.
Parenting in general is a hard job, but being the disciplinary and the
passivist is like having split personalities sometimes!

Life is what you make it. If your lonely there are lots of things you
can do to help that.