For a while now I was trying to make a long time freind my girlfriend. I made my feelings known to her on many occasions. took her out on fancy dates and bought her many expensive gifts. Knowing full well It might not get me anywhere. After awile she told me that she had been seeing some one else and that things between them had gotten personal. Hearing this I decided to move on. It was clear that she didn't have the feelings I had for her, and It was unhealthly to go on in this way. so I stopped hanging out with her and moved on with my life. Four months went by, I moved closer to work and bought a new car. Then out of the blue I recived a phone call telling how much she missed me and that she would relly like to see me again. With that she started driving up to see me on weekends. We had a wonderful time. We went to nice dinners and went danceing. And spent the night with me. I have to say it cought me by suprize, That this girl that I had had a crush on for so long was suddenly envolved with me. Things were great for a about a month. Thats when she came to me a told me that this whole time she was with me, She was still seeing her old boy friend and that this time she was spending with me was a mistake. With that it was over, I'm confused I should be liveing mad at her yet I'm not. I just feel lost and confused. What did I do wrong? Why do still have feelings for her, When It's pretty clear she was just useing me. I gess love just make you stupid. Don't know why I posting this gess, I just want to get it out of my head.

You did nothing wrong. She was confused also. She obviously had feeling for you and him. Just be smart enough to move on this time before it gets really messy.

Better to know now rather than a marriage and 2 kids later!

You're better off without her=)

Been there done it! Never ever cross the line with your best Buddy, it's a heartache waiting to happen! You love them to death, but its a whole different kind of love, once you cross that line you feel so awkward and its hard to remain the friends you once were if at all.Sit down and have a heart to heart, its better to get it all off your chest and move on with your life either as friends from a distance or not at all, call check up from time to time, but the intimacy is totally off the books, so are the gifts and favors that can be mistaken for other ideas.

my best advice for you man is if you feel a connection w/ that person from the beginning never try the friendship route, it blurs the lines to easily, and makes for too many awkard feelings. just be honest and tell the person you hvae feelings, if they don't feel the same, atleast you saved youself the heeartache and headache.

kaze

"love makes you stupid "

That's so true. When I find myself doing something I have no desire to do for no good reason.... When I say OK instead of F that...