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Topic: Disclosing the past
hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 04:55 PM
Another thread brought this question to mind. How much of your past are you obligated to disclose to a casual date? How much do you tell a serious suitor? What do you save for when you know you want to spend your life with this person? How much is just your business, and never needs to be disclosed?

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Fri 04/04/08 04:57 PM
that's a good question, i always wonder the same thing

flnative32750 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 81	Fri 04/04/08 04:58 PM
Another thread brought this question to mind. How much of your past are you obligated to disclose to a casual date? How much do you tell a serious suitor? What do you save for when you know you want to spend your life with this person? How much is just your business, and never needs to be disclosed? I have often wondered this myself.

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Fri 04/04/08 04:59 PM
It seem's, if you don't fess up then, you're a liar. But, being upfront is no guarantee of understanding.

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Fri 04/04/08 04:59 PM
Geez,,, your life must be far more exciting than mine!!

Urg04es Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 1411	Fri 04/04/08 04:59 PM
I think as a casual date you don't have to tell your whole life story, but as you get to know someone I think you should open up and trust that they are going to accept you no matter what your past may be-good or bad.

Snoman1951 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 5731	Fri 04/04/08 05:01 PM
good question..I got a big mouth so I tend to tell all 'cept pin# and financial info

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Fri 04/04/08 05:01 PM
I think as a casual date you don't have to tell your whole life story, but as you get to know someone I think you should open up and trust that they are going to accept you no matter what your past may be-good or bad. Maybe the more personal thing's have a right to be held back. Untill that person has proven their worth in your life.

ErinPatricia Joined Sat 03/08/08 Posts: 2	Fri 04/04/08 05:02 PM
Another thread brought this question to mind. How much of your past are you obligated to disclose to a casual date? How much do you tell a serious suitor? What do you save for when you know you want to spend your life with this person? How much is just your business, and never needs to be disclosed? I think (from experience) on a date you sort of casually talk about things, when you are asked...like if you've been in a relationship--how much experience you've had with relationships. From that point on I think you just play it by ear. When you're comfortable enough just disclose some of your information and if they respond well, go with it. Eventually you form a close relationship.

me2g Joined Fri 02/08/08 Posts: 1285	Fri 04/04/08 05:02 PM
i think its a question best left for the individual.. i dont think you're really obligated to tell a casual date anything withan exception of diseases if your gonna have sex. obviously a serious suiter you would want to tell more and that special someone.. well if they really are that special someone it shouldnt matter what you did in the past and you should be more than happy to share everything knowing that.

Silntstrnger Joined Wed 12/12/07 Posts: 4265	Fri 04/04/08 05:03 PM
i wish i knew that myself..

1956deluxe Joined Thu 12/06/07 Posts: 8559	Fri 04/04/08 05:05 PM
Full disclosure....Why not?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 05:05 PM
i think its a question best left for the individual.. i dont think you're really obligated to tell a casual date anything withan exception of diseases if your gonna have sex. obviously a serious suiter you would want to tell more and that special someone.. well if they really are that special someone it shouldnt matter what you did in the past and you should be more than happy to share everything knowing that. one would think that, wouldn't one?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 05:05 PM
good question..I got a big mouth so I tend to tell all 'cept pin# and financial info I could probably work on you to get that pin#

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 05:06 PM
Geez,,, your life must be far more exciting than mine!! Oh. you have no idea.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 04/04/08 05:07 PM Edited by Totage on Fri 04/04/08 05:07 PM
Another thread brought this question to mind. How much of your past are you obligated to disclose to a casual date? How much do you tell a serious suitor? What do you save for when you know you want to spend your life with this person? How much is just your business, and never needs to be disclosed? That's up to you. Share whatever you feel comfortable sharing at whatever time in the relationship you feel comfortable sharing it.

brimstone Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 622	Fri 04/04/08 05:08 PM
I had a date recently....can you believe that? During my date...actually very early on in the date...she disclosed a couple of things that were like.......well......way too much for a first date. But it was important to her that she tell me but....I really didn't recover from the information overload until the next day. I don't feel that I was able to relax and be myself during the date...like it was totally sabotaged.... Be careful what and and how much you say.....

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 05:09 PM
I had a date recently....can you believe that? During my date...actually very early on in the date...she disclosed a couple of things that were like.......well......way too much for a first date. But it was important to her that she tell me but....I really didn't recover from the information overload until the next day. I don't feel that I was able to relax and be myself during the date...like it was totally sabotaged.... Be careful what and and how much you say..... Watch out for TMI syndrome, huh?

Muchacho Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 1064	Fri 04/04/08 05:11 PM
i let it all hang out and then i tell her about my past lol

Snoman1951 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 5731	Fri 04/04/08 05:13 PM
good question..I got a big mouth so I tend to tell all 'cept pin# and financial info I could probably work on you to get that pin# 573976542099836846133520