Yeah really...because I really, REALLY liked this girl...and I feel like the date wasn't what it could've been.

disclose what you feel comfortable telling a complete stranger

when you're closer, you can disclose more...it's a matter of comfort level..for you and them

.....I saved an article from the paper written by a phycologist,20
+ yrs back, I cut it out a few days b4 what was the beginning of a marriage for myself and my best friend of 10 yrs....long story short, the shrink said you can harm a marriage/relationship w/to much disclosure....one of the things that had an adverse effect on our relationship was knowing each others history in detail and not being mature enough to leave it in the past...like I said it was 20+ yrs ago...Ive always kept it in mind when embarking on a new relationship, I let things come out a in timely (only necessary) kinda way...being careful to not deceive by omission either.


~wicked~

None, as much as needed, a bit more detail. Skeletons in my closet no one know's about and they will stay that way regardless of how much I may care for someone.

Aww Come on, Fear.Just a peek,puleeeeze? I promise I won't tell.

I have a frog...

Now don't tell anyone...

FEAR HAS A FROG!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dammit.

careful..warts

I'd say be careful with what you tell them, and kinda stingy with information. And I'm being serious here. I have a great reason for beleiving this way: it's important for both sexes to keep some mystery about them.

I have skeletons under my floor...is that the same thing?

consider the deal breakers.........and always.......ALWAYS....
be up front about those.........

You don't tell ANYONE about those. EVER.

Except maybe Gumbyvs. But he is not around tonight.

Well it takes me a little time before i actually open up to someone. Some times though it's on how comfortable i am with them and that goes to say how the communication is

Ummm with someone I'm going to spend the rest of my life with? I think it's fair they know whatever they want. I mean, what could you possibly want to keep secret from them? And if you did why? Would it alter how they see you? And in that case, wouldn't it be unfair not to disclose that information?

My past is just that, MY PAST. when or IF I find someone that wants to be with me, then and only THEN will I tell them about my past.

I'm completely ok with letting him know about the bodies in the yard...after all, he may be mowing one day and trip on a femur.


That would suck.


But anything past that is completely out of line.

I HATE when that happens!