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Topic: Friend Request
hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 04/05/08 07:14 AM
Since the chances of me actually getting to meet anyone in person here are negligible (Distance 6000 miles plus) I've made it clear in my profile that I'm looking maínly for friends to talk to and just to have fun. But....If you want to send me money,or pay for me to come over there, I'm open to offers. true but wouldn't e-mail be a more effective means of communication? A friend request tells you nothing. The icon sits there on your friend list ever thereafter. There is no communication. Sending and recieving friend requests show that there are people out there who are interested in you and what you are about. Email contact is always there as well and I use it. IM also. If you don't send, recieve or accept Friend Requests, then there is very little chance of actually meeting anyone in person. Posting in the forums only gives a vague opinion of what you are like. Talking to 'friends' gives you the oppertunity to get to know the person better. Ok, I guess I am not seeing how the friend request facilitates anything. I would think e-mail would be the most effective way to get to know someone. A friend request tells you nothing. Am I missing something? You have been at this much longer than I have. When I first got here, I would accept anyone who asked to be my friend. Their faces sat on my screen and I never spoke to them again. Those who have taken the time to e-mail have become friends, one of which I have actually met in person. He never sent me a friend request. I guess I am not certain what it does, other than make it easier to find your friends to e-mail them.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 04/05/08 07:16 AM
Why does someone send a friend request when you have never been in a forum together? What sparks it off? thank u for posting this topic because i was wondering the same question and also why people want to be on ur friend list but, has no desire to ever talk to u? That is the real question. Thank you for explaining it better than I did.

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 04/05/08 07:26 AM Edited by buffry on Sat 04/05/08 07:28 AM
I think some people have a hard time knowing, just what to say when they first meet someone. Just plain requesting a friendship, is a cue to you, hey, Im interested! I know personally I dont participate in the forums all that much. I usually just read a profile and attempt to get acquainted, if Im interested, ya know? I dont think it's such a bad thing. You are on a dating site, its not like a stranger is approaching you on the street. No danger in responding with an email. [/quote No, of course no danger. It's not that which concerns me. It's where this person's head is. If they want talk to me, why don't they send me an e-mail? If they don't know what to say, then clearly they have nothing to talk to me about,so what is the point? The idea of a dating site is communication, I thought. So a friend request from someone who has never bothered to take the time to speak to you is completely meaningless. Awe...they may have plenty to talk to you about, they might just be a little shy with the opening line! I always give anyone and everyone the chance to talk to me if they are interested. Then I determine whether it is worth pursuing. Try not being so hard on people, everyone has a different approach on getting to know someone. You might be surprised. wow - you are one of those...whaddya call'em - oh yeah - genuinely nice people. I can learn from people like you.I am not always so nice. Thanks for the un-jaded point of view. I need to hear that now and again. Not ALWAYS soo nice, but thanks, lol. I just think that people deserve a chance first...then they can earn my respect, if not, trust me, they are out the door,hehe.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Sat 04/05/08 07:27 AM
Why does someone send a friend request when you have never been in a forum together? What sparks it off? thank u for posting this topic because i was wondering the same question and also why people want to be on ur friend list but, has no desire to ever talk to u? I have been on sites where, apparently, some people do nothing but send out friend requests all day, because they have 4859 friends. Seems like an awful lot of people to keep track of, have lunch with, go to the mall with, have over for canasta, catch a movie, etc., but with a little schedule-juggling and a 900-hour day, I'm sure it's perfectly feasible.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sat 04/05/08 07:30 AM
Usually alcohol does it.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 04/05/08 07:52 AM
my friends are chosen carefully something they say, or something I see It is done most respectfully I ask that they do the same for .....me

uk1971 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 22015	Sat 04/05/08 08:50 AM
Since the chances of me actually getting to meet anyone in person here are negligible (Distance 6000 miles plus) I've made it clear in my profile that I'm looking maínly for friends to talk to and just to have fun. But....If you want to send me money,or pay for me to come over there, I'm open to offers. true but wouldn't e-mail be a more effective means of communication? A friend request tells you nothing. The icon sits there on your friend list ever thereafter. There is no communication. Sending and recieving friend requests show that there are people out there who are interested in you and what you are about. Email contact is always there as well and I use it. IM also. If you don't send, recieve or accept Friend Requests, then there is very little chance of actually meeting anyone in person. Posting in the forums only gives a vague opinion of what you are like. Talking to 'friends' gives you the oppertunity to get to know the person better. Ok, I guess I am not seeing how the friend request facilitates anything. I would think e-mail would be the most effective way to get to know someone. A friend request tells you nothing. Am I missing something? You have been at this much longer than I have. When I first got here, I would accept anyone who asked to be my friend. Their faces sat on my screen and I never spoke to them again. Those who have taken the time to e-mail have become friends, one of which I have actually met in person. He never sent me a friend request. I guess I am not certain what it does, other than make it easier to find your friends to e-mail them. I guess having a friends list keeps you informed of who you actually talk to on here.(Depending on how often or how little.)

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 04/05/08 03:16 PM
I guess having a friends list keeps you informed of who you actually talk to on here.(Depending on how often or how little.) Yes, that is what I use it for. Hence, my confusion when faced with a request from someone I had neither had e-mail from, nor seen on the boards. Thanks.