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Topic: not really a relationship...advice needed though
spqr Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 388	Thu 04/03/08 02:54 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 04/03/08 02:57 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. that is what you are doing.

spqr Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 388	Thu 04/03/08 03:01 PM Edited by spqr on Thu 04/03/08 03:02 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. that is what you are doing. Absolutely not. All I am sayng she should feel free to love him/her. A true friend is happy if you are in love, not jealous.

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Thu 04/03/08 03:04 PM
Not a good idea at all

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Thu 04/03/08 03:07 PM Edited by cutelildevilsmom on Thu 04/03/08 03:08 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. where was soul mate used? She is totally uncomfortable with the whole situation.Besides women have many unwritten rules and one of them is ya don't boff your friends ex.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 04/03/08 03:08 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. where was soul mate used? She is totally uncomfortable with the whole situation.Besides women have many unspoken rules and one of them is ya don't boff your friends ex. sounds pretty simple to me.

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Thu 04/03/08 03:10 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. where was soul mate used? She is totally uncomfortable with the whole situation.Besides women have many unspoken rules and one of them is ya don't boff your friends ex. sounds pretty simple to me. I'm a simple woman .

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 04/03/08 03:11 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. that is what you are doing. Absolutely not. All I am sayng she should feel free to love him/her. A true friend is happy if you are in love, not jealous. a true friend does not feel the need to tap everything he sees

nanilene23 Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 195	Thu 04/03/08 03:11 PM
not a very good idea i lost my bf just cuz she thought i was flirting w/her suppose to be man. i never did flirt or went out w/him n neither did she. we just lost our good friendship of bout 8 years. its now been around 5 years n i miss her. so not worth it at all!!

spqr Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 388	Thu 04/03/08 03:12 PM Edited by spqr on Thu 04/03/08 03:12 PM
I think your friendship must be not that solid after all if something that should be cheered upon ( love) is seen as a "disrespectful behaviour" one night stand or soulmates is their business! No one else's. why one feels the right to judge someone elses' feelings is beyond me. where was soul mate used? She is totally uncomfortable with the whole situation.Besides women have many unwritten rules and one of them is ya don't boff your friends ex. I was talking in more general terms right now. And I am not a woman ;) So let me get this rule: It is ok to disrupt a marriage and divorce, but it's not ok to (risk to) disrupt a friendship for love? and that from a woman point of view? I'm surprised.

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Thu 04/03/08 03:14 PM
I would say your friend might have had a good reason for divorcing her ex as you did. I think it is about trusting your friend's judgement.

carolanne58 Joined Wed 07/18/07 Posts: 1727	Thu 04/03/08 06:43 PM
WOW this is something that happened in our circle of friends! Lets put it this way...we have one less friend! You do NOT ever mess with a friends ex anything no matter what. You have limits that you have to stay within, once you cross those limits things will never be the same!!! A rule I live by: If my friends lips have touched them, they are off limits!!! I agree,can't see this working out.