I am very frustrated tonight. My best friend spent the weekend at my home because her brother hit her while she was in her parents home and the parents were looking on. They did nothing.
I did everything I could to get her to stay with me and call the police to no avail. (I know about battered wife syndrome and why she wanted to go back) It didnt make a difference.

My questions (are) is this. What causes otherwise rational people to think that is proper behavior and allow this to go on in their homes? As a parent would you let grown children do this in your home? Would you call the police on one of your own children?

Just for the record, I wouldnt let that kind of behavior in my home and I would call the police.

Some women, mothers, are not strong enough-in mind, to not put up with this type of behavior, and not allow it to happen...

but would you call the police on your kids???

Tough call. Is it different with siblings? As far as domestic violence? It will be interesting to see how people answer this..honestly I'm not sure......

I dont know either. and yes it is a very hard thing to come to grips with.

How did he hit her? Was she bleeding, broken, was it a violent fight? "her brother hit her".......what does that mean exactly?

I think its a learned behavior..women that grow up in that type of environment seem to find it all exceptable and normal.

I would call the police on the brother...and maybe the mom and dad. Are these all adults?

I agree with LIJOMA. My sister allowed it to happen to her and as a result ended up watching her BF murder his brother over calling her a slut. Some of us are born with a spine and some of us grow one as a result of life experiences. But you can have a welfare check done on her behalf if it ever happens again.

I was engaged to a man, several years ago, and we use to have conversations all the time, mainly me upset and bit****g about women, and how they allow certain things to happen, or how they could allow someone to treat them a certain way, or how they live.... And Q use to tell me, Lisa not every woman is as strong in mind as you, not everyone can do, or know what to do in certain situations. It took me a lllloooonnnnnggggg time to realize this. I use to work at a Section 8-Government sub. property for the Housing Authority Office, and I have seen so much abuse, of every kind there is.... And it makes me sick!!!!!

maybe the parents are scared of the son or maybe they feel guilty if they call the cops. sometimes tough love is what is needed or the bad actions won't stop.

just a thought

as for those that are battered...alot of times the abuser tears the other down so emotionally that the person thinks they deserve it or can't do any better. or they are just terrified

yes ,,, otherwise the violence will continue ,,, hard call but somebody;s gotta do it,,, a good lesson the kid will never forget

Yeah lets say I had a son/daughter and he was beating on my daughter or son I would call the cops. Especially if they were beating them for no apparent reason then yes I would call the cops on my own son or daughter if I could not get them to stop beating the other one profusely!!

he picked her up and threw her across the room in to a fireplace and she is brused. no bleeding. but does that matter?? I dont know.

My mom would!

ok thank you

I have never crossed that bridge, and I hope and pray I never have too, but at this very moment, if I had too, YES, I would. Right is right, and I am a firm believer on this. I hope I do not have to ever do that though, but I honestly feel I would if it got that bad.

I agree, I'd call the cops if it was an out and out knock down drag out kind of fight.....I mean siblings fight, but not to the death.

i am worried sick and ill from the thoughts of here being there.

All you have to do is call your police department and tell them what has happened in the past and that you are afraid for her.