I understand your dilemma. I admit to being a carnal Christian in that I am having sex outsideof mmarriage. I know its a sin and I have been struggling with this for years and I came to realize that what really attracts me in a woman is her innocence between us and once we have sex it seems to stain the relationship and I don't view her the same way.I actually tarnish the relationship , something you lose in the way you probably cher oooooo shed before.in a nut shell we have urges and we are to discipline those urges.whats right is right whats wrong is wrong.the Holy spirit convicts us when we sin.I hope I have given you a clear perspective on this issue.God bless.