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You never put the cart before the horse. I have no respect for anyone that can't own up to this. What you have to realize is this is a dangerous game you are playing. When this dudes wife finds out about you, and she will, she will probably be looking to whoop you azz. Tread lightly........ 
Oh please, she is much more civilized than that. Besides it would never happen. Maybe a ***** slap but whooping my azz would never happen. lol 
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look guys i know about karma and i know this has no happy ending for anyone. I know it is wrong because she i being lied to. Lies hurt the most when from someone you love. I know I cant be the first nor will i be the last for this guy. I truly wish i didn't find him so likable. Yes i know you all think he is a slim ball but you really shouldn't judge people that have different ways of dealing with things than you do as the scum of the earth. I know it hurts to be lied to, but the truth now would be worse than the lie. I am sure it will end soon enough and yes i would hope before any damage done to his family. The last thing i want is for him to leave his wife. I do not wish that on anyone. I have been selfish, yes, but life is short and I chose to do what made me happy. If that takes me to hell so be it. I'm sure i will see more than one of you there too.
My goodness some uptight people in this forum. I knew this would get some very opinionated responses. Go ahead let it rip. |
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but i am not trying to help anyone spell or write a letter. know my limitations. or do i????? lol Umm, from what I've read posted, the answer is 'no'.  too funny. you maybe right. but still funny the way you caught that one. lol
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Here is a book some of you may find interesting. I know the comments i am about to get will be that's no doubt. lmfao
  
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms. |
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Everyone seems to think including myself that you just have to leave. Thats the free advice the only other thing I could suggest is seek a good Therapist and lay your story on the line. Good Luck So only the cool kids and societal dictates of the norm or unnorm are allowed to stay and chat in the forums huh? Crazy or uncrazy leadership begins within the core being of self......no one should decide who is allowed and not allowed to stay in the forums but those set forth to do so.......sure it is a controversial subject and there is conflict in dialouge which indicates a conflict with the self core of the inner being......but does not everyone portry self conflict at some point in life? Many people use these forums for some form of therapy at some point......just because there is conflict over a subject and differing views is what makes these forums great and informational no matter what we take or leave. I am not allowing or disallowing anyone just made an observation on some of the responses i was receiving. I thanked you for yours but if you wish i could say something else . Remember I am according to these few people who have no clue who i am that i am crazy, evil and etc etc i am not one to leave anyone out. I am just saying now i am done continue if you like |
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Our Bus is here....Load up...single file ..please 
[/quote i miss my old ride to school. you know it i c |
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but i am not trying to help anyone spell or write a letter. I know my limitations. or do i????? lol
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You may have a point but I have been dating for a year or so and have not had anyone take a hold of my heart like this one. I really think it is because believe it or not he really is a nice guy. I know he feels guilt too but I am not sure if I feel what he is doing is so wrong. If he stays with her what is the harm in him seeking something missing with her. I know that he has tried to get her to see things his way but she is not meeting his needs. That being said he loves her I know and for what ever reason that doesn't bother me. I know i should set the bar a little higher but i have dated and men and continue to keep options open but no one makes me feel like he does. All the other men I have dated just seem to bore me or no spark. I may be settling but it doesn't feel that way all the time. I am having a hard time letting go. He is the closest thing i have found to what i would like to find in a my next partner. The cheating thing doesnt bother me. I know it happens and i know it doesn't mean you care for anyone any less it is just something that can make you feel good again if kids etc take over at home. not sure what you are getting at i haven't had those parts in quit a while but try to find something else as vulgar i sure you will |
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You may have a point but I have been dating for a year or so and have not had anyone take a hold of my heart like this one. I really think it is because believe it or not he really is a nice guy. I know he feels guilt too but I am not sure if I feel what he is doing is so wrong. If he stays with her what is the harm in him seeking something missing with her. I know that he has tried to get her to see things his way but she is not meeting his needs. That being said he loves her I know and for what ever reason that doesn't bother me. I know i should set the bar a little higher but i have dated and men and continue to keep options open but no one makes me feel like he does. All the other men I have dated just seem to bore me or no spark. I may be settling but it doesn't feel that way all the time. I am having a hard time letting go. He is the closest thing i have found to what i would like to find in a my next partner. The cheating thing doesnt bother me. I know it happens and i know it doesn't mean you care for anyone any less it is just something that can make you feel good again if kids etc take over at home. not sure what you are getting at i haven't had those parts in quit a while but try to find something else as vulgar i sure you will |
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oopps sorry ruth34611 and k0003 I really do appreciate your input as well. I am done you peeps can carry on if you wish but i had my hopes to high when hoping for intelligent conversation about the situation I have found myself in. I guess I am the only one here to ever do such a horrible thing. hmmm or at least admit to it . ok you make me laugh too mr important |
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oopps sorry ruth34611 and k0003 I really do appreciate your input as well.
I am done you peeps can carry on if you wish but i had my hopes to high when hoping for intelligent conversation about the situation I have found myself in. I guess I am the only one here to ever do such a horrible thing. hmmm or at least admit to it . |
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jamie rawxx and seakolony thank you for your words and thoughts on the matter. Oh and 2kidsmom well you make me laugh thanks......lol..... The rest of you keep up the good work. Reminds me why I seem to think outside the norm. You just spew out with what you have already decided in your head without trying to help and answer the real question. Thanks anyway for your 2cents but i wouldnt pay a penny for your thoughts .
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Is it possible to have a happy ending when in love with a married man that you want him to stay with his wife but still want him as a lover, friend etc.... But that is getting way ahead I don't know that he loves me or that I love him Hmmmmmm..... you said both *sigh* $.02 
no i did not!! dude you read between lines or what ????? first statement said lover for your information that is someone you have sex with that does not always imply love. the second one states just what i am saying i DONT KNOW if he love me or that i love him. Damn I would hate to date you you would have your own little dialog with yourself. It wouldn't matter what the other actually said. |
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wtf?????? he is not having all the fun. Hell why do you think i am in it??? It is because i enjoy every minute with him. I am having just as much fun as he is maybe more. I enjoy pleasing him and he likes pleasing me. This is not a one way street. That is why it is sooooo hard to walk away. Has not anyone here ever been in this type of relationship or triangle.?????
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no i did not goodguy say that i loved him or that i didnt love him. I said i have fallen for a married man. He has a hold of my heart. I don't know if i love him or if i am in blinding lust with him. So please dont put words in my mouth. I may have a hard time expressing myself but dont need words added to my confused mess. thank you.
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maybe but really the sex is just average. I mean I have had much better. I think it is his personality that has me whipped. He makes me smile all the time. He never bores me.
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I really dont understand all this self worth mumbo jumbo. I don't see that my self respect has anything to do with falling for a married man. My moral judgment may be lacking but I have never been a conformist. I should demand more of someone i have relations with???? Well that would be great but like i said in the beginning I wasn't looking for this kind of friendship i never thought in a million years i would have fallen for this guy. Now that I have it just keeps snow balling out of control. I just hope he puts a stop to it soon. I am too weak for him so maybe he will do the right thing. I am willing to bet he will. I am telling you he is really a nice guy.
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yes you are right there was the moment and i know it is wrong because she has no idea. I would like to keep it that way because like i have said i do not want to break up his family.
I t would be worse than the pain i feel now when i think o f never seeing him again. |
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well yes, I don't see why loving his wife should mean i have any less self respect. I have loved more than one person in my life. I would think others can too. But that is getting way ahead I don't know that he loves me or that I love him. I just know i cant get enough of him and he consumes my thoughts. I am keeping my options open but nothing out there interests me. He does. The first of the last 5 i have dated that really excites me in so many ways. I get all what you are saying i just don't have those same issues with monogamy as most. I feel if 100% honest and open then and trust is the key that it is ok to have another occasionally especially if one is not feeling up to filling the needs of the other. I know when i was married and my ex had really been on my nerves and then would want sex I would have given him my blessing to go somewhere else for a while. Im just saying.
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cute i like your $.02
your 2 cents worth. lol |
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