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Thanks PMS I hate to say it but I do think Gentleman is right, it's real
hard to tell fantasy from reality these days. Believe me and I know ur
not doubting me but I'm for real. I feel like part of me is slowly dieng
where I'm at and the other half says everything will be all right. I
know god put me on this earth for a reason I just wonder what it is and
when will I be content. I guess like gentleman said I really do need a
gut check for one and need a lot of soul searching right now.
Bobby

Thanks Iam4U I just might take u up on that. Right now I feel I need a
friend of the opposite sex to sit down with and try to figure out what
women feel when they have been in a relationship for a long period of
time. I don't think it's a hormone problem I could be wrong she see's a
dr. reguarly for check ups and all. Counseling I've suggested and get
"we don't need a stranger to tell us how to live our lives." I hope u
all don't think that I just keep throwing excuses after excuse at ya,
that's 1 of the reasons I've opened up today like no other point in my
life. Don't know what posessed me to but it did make me feel better. I'm
amazed at how many men e-mailed me saying they went thru a simular
situation, thanks for all of your support, please keep them coming.
Ladies if you lived close to me and seen what I'm writeing also knowing
I'm married would u consider going out with me or would u consider me
scum?

Catchme may I ask how after time you lost respect for your husband?

She didn't have a problem having orgasm's, and yes I think after the
time we've spent together she does see sex as a chore not something that
comes natural. I like the comes natural thing it's alot more exciteing.
My son shouldn't think marriages is supposed to be that way but I also
don't wont to have to live without him, it would destroy him to have to
live somewhere without his DA DA. That's the reason I don't wont to seem
so anxiuos to try and find someone else right now. But my hormones are
very anxious and tired of waiting on something I feel will not happen. I
haven't given up just given myself another way of thinking.

Bought some toys she thought they were gross and wouldn't try them.
Bought nightys for her she wont wear them, I know I'm sounding negative
here but I've tried to give more romance amongst other things with no
response.

I really don't know what to say. I've been married now for 24 yrs. and
the last 2 gone sour. I haven't had a friend of the opposite sex since
I've graduated high school in 1982 (Pathetic isn't it?) not even 1. My
spouse is very jealous and goes into a rage if I even talk to another
girl, I feel she's very insecure about herself. About 2 yrs ago my
spouse told me that she loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore
which by the way crushed my heart. But what she said next floored me,
she told me she would live the rest of her life with me as long as she
didn't have to have sex with me. She told me I was a great lover but she
hated sex. Now saying that in the back of mind I think 1 she's already
eyeing her a stalion she picked out or 2 she's already put a saddle on
him and rode him, I'll probably never know. Now realizeing that I've
lived the past 24 yrs for someone else I've come upon the question "What
about me?" I don't want to come across selfish but I feel I've missed
out on alot in my life. Now living without any romance or compassion,
and a long time without any kind of sexual relationship I would like to
get back into the dating scene but I don't want to come across like a
low down cheater or being unfaithful (I have been faithful for 24 yrs)
but I've realized I have needs and desires that I would like to fufill.
I have a wonderful 8 yr old son and that's the reason I'm where I'm at
today. I would love to hear from some of you women and get your point of
view, maybe I'm missing something here?