Communication is vital on both sides, not just one. If there are issues, it is important that BOTH take time to really talk about these and while doing so to look for solutions. Not just sarcasm or putting the head in the sand. The point is to show there is a problem, respect is lost, temporarily or the other person did not even realise there was a lack of respect and to talk about it lovingly and try to find solutions and "work it out", which need LOTS of communication. Again if in these communications either person could not be bothered to take it seriously( important to that person) or just ignores it or puts head in the sand, then that person is not making a real effort at communicating or "making it work". Then it is one-way communication and a mature, adult, good marriage cannot be based on this. It will have unhealthy dynamics or fall apart or have buried hurts, or mind games or gaps widening, or cracks that are covered over with day to day life. it can cause deep loneliness for either party also. If admitted to. So no matter how dreary or boring or tedious the communication, without it it's a deep ravine without any bridge across. So communication is VITAL, no matter how trivial, but about all the big difficult things aswell as the day to day chit chat.

And humour. Humour in the middle even of an escalated discussion, while communicating, is very important. Opinions again, Mine. Freedom of speech. Thanks.

and in order to be able to do that in the first place, one needs to work during life, before ever bothering with longterm relationship or marriage with oneself, to discover who one is and to be really honest with oneself first, to know oneself then one can let another person know who one is, if one does not know oneself or is trying to be someone they are not, then it will be impossible for the other person to truly see each other and to be able to judge whether they will be happy together more or less or not. if either party is pretending, then it will be a great disappointment for both when the pretence is seen through. As then both realise they are not loving what they thought they were, so better to be honest from the beginning and space apart to decide whether this is the person they wish to love or not. There are also very good examples in all the major religions in the world of what a good wife or husband is, they can be studied. And it is very clear. Preparation has to be made both spiritually, mentally and financially. If there is no home prepared for then how can the family have a secure place? The preparation is worth it, after that it takes more work and more. it is not a bed of roses, it is hard work. but there are rewards. TVland gives a false impression of relationships and marriage, most of the time. The commitment is I think in still trying when the other person is being really thoughtless. Love is patient, love is kind, but first one must love oneself ( this does not mean being selfish) it means RESPECTING oneself first and foremost and if one does, then the other person will understand to do the same, if either person does not respect and one stays in this relationship both will end up not respecting themselves and damage each other, and oneself. IT is time to end this relationship. RESPECT is the key and from the beginning, not in sporadic fits, all the time, consistently. If there are major things that are not ok in the relationship and people stay in it, the respect will fly out the window and the relationship will be unhealthy. I think. Opinion. Then there comes a day when one or other will say I have to get out out of respect and self preservation to myself even. if RESPECT for oneself and for others is present, along with many other factors, that is a good start. I think. For male and female. Both. Opinion. Mine.

A GOOD HUSBAND OR WIFE NEEDS TO TRANSMIT WHAT THE OTHER PERSON WANTS OR NEEDS. A good marriage comes from both being able to tolerate the quirks and nuttiness of the other:) If there are intolerable things in either for either then that is to be found out while dating and getting to know. Then it must end. Major no nos are addictions, lack of self-sacrifice and pulling weight together as a team. Transparency is also required in all areas, as separate people become one. People are not perfect, but there are simply some things an individual can live with and some that are not possible to live with. Key is respect from the beginning. Marriage should never be rushed, marry in hast, repent at leisure, there should be a good lengthy getting to know period, with lots of different experiences throughout to see whether both would be happy really together longterm. After that a lot of effort on both parts. Both have to help make it work, it won't happen by magic or happily ever after. I think. Opinion. Fundamental things in common that are important as a base aswell first. Religion, attitude to where to live, children, and finances, and what expectations from the relationship or marriage: getting married, will it mean for both setting up a home or expanding an existing home for example, with all that involves? Or is it simply company to share hobbies and interests? it is a good idea to look at what each want from the relationship or marriage, and to be careful that the longterm and short term goals match, if not it is a waste of time. It think. Opinion. Mine.