Ravi, i think their exists a large demand & supply gap too. Very few girls and so many guys! Try to stand out from the crowd by improving your profile. As of now there are absolutely no details in your profile. You can also become a paid member. When you do that your profile will always come up in every search that a girl makes. Also, login on daily basis, may be for a few seconds. Again, it is for gaining preference over other profiles. This is my experience and i have shared it hoping that it may help you. Best of luck, brother!

People who don't agree can just answer this simple question : Why does a married woman only needs a guy for emotional support? Can't she have a good friend of the same sex who can provide whatever support she requires?

I really don't believe that an affair outside marriage can last more than a few months without sex. The reasons for the same for men & women have to be looked at separately.

FOR MEN :

I really don't think that much reasoning or discussion is required. I have never seen a man claim that i am having an affair for emotional support that i don't get from my wife. For men, sex is a part & parcel of an affair. Without sex, an affair won't last. A good man may provide all the emotional & financial support to the woman involved to the best of his ability but the man is definitely looking for some kind of sexual gratification in return. If that is not made available, the man will not be interested for long.

FOR WOMEN :

Women are complex creatures and most don't show what they actually want. Societal pressures / our culture is the primary reason for this behavior. Thus women can't be blamed for the same. The reasons for a married women entering an affair may be :

1. Hope of some kind of emotional support which is non-existent.

2. Seeking pride, self worth, attention, time & sympathy

3. Out of sheer boredom

4. Seeking financial help for her own family

5. For sexual gratification, specially in cases where husbands are either not too keen to have regular sex, for whatever the reason it may be, or are unable to satisfy the wife sexually. Age difference can be a big problem. Out station jobs ie. absence of husband for long duration can also be a reason.

The problem is that can a married women find a guy who will only provide emotional support? If the guy is young, he is looking to experiment. Married women are the easiest targets. No young guy would be interested in a long term relationship with married women for obvious reasons. As for a married man, if the guy was so patient, nice & loving that he can provide good emotional support, his marriage would have been intact and he wouldn't be looking for another married women. 99.9% guys are looking for sexual gratification and if they get what they want, they may extend emotional support. A married women if clearly states that she will never have a physical relationship outside marriage and is not ready to talk about sex, will fail to find any guys. The guys who still go for such a lady are either overconfident that they will be able to change the lady over time or are desperate to have some opposite sex in their lives & have no other options available to them or are happy even with adult chatting (if the lady agrees to the same)/ normal chatting to kill / pass time. I think sex is a part & parcel of such relationships. Any one who disagree's may please answer a simple question: Why does a married woman only needs a guy for emotional support? Can't she have a good friend of the same sex who can provide whatever support she requires?

Most (Not all) men & women, when given an opportunity or when an opportunity arises, would love to have an affair after marriage, but generally, it is for very different reasons and thus they hardly work.

Reasons for having an extra marital affair :


FOR MEN:

1. Need for more sex than what wife has to offer. This is the reason in most of the cases.

2. Desire of having multiple sex partners, seeking variety kinds


FOR WOMEN :

1. Hope of some kind of emotional support which is non-existent.

2. Seeking pride, self worth, attention, time & sympathy

3. Out of sheer boredom

4. Seeking financial help for her own family

5. For sexual gratification, specially in cases where husbands are either not too keen to have regular sex, for whatever the reason it may be, or are unable to satisfy the wife sexually. Age difference can be a big problem. Out station jobs ie. absence of husband for long duration can also be a reason.

a4allen, you are so very right! How does a married women find a guy who will only provide emotional support? If the guys are young, they are looking to experiment. Married women are the easiest targets. No young guy would be interested in a long term relationship with married women for obvious reasons. As for a married man, if the guy was so patient, nice & loving that he can provide good emotional support, his marriage would have been intact and he wouldn't be looking for another married women. 99.9% guys are looking for sexual gratification and if they get what they want, they may extend emotional support. A married women if clearly states that she will never have a physical relationship outside marriage, will fail to find any guys. The guys who still go for such a lady are either overconfident that they will be able to change the lady over time or are desperate to have some opposite sex in their lives & have no other options available to them or are happy even with adult chatting (if the lady agrees to the same)/ normal chatting to kill / pass time. I think sex is a part & parcel of such relationships. Any one who disagree's may please answer a simple question: Why does a married woman only needs a guy for emotional support? Can't she have a good friend of the same sex who can provide whatever support she requires?

Reasons for having an extra marital affair :


FOR MEN:

1. Need for more sex than what wife has to offer. This is the reason in most of the cases.

2. Desire of having multiple sex partners, seeking variety kinds


FOR WOMEN :

1. Hope of some kind of emotional support which is non-existent.

2. Seeking pride, self worth, attention, time & sympathy

3. Out of sheer boredom

4. Seeking financial help for her own family

5. For sexual gratification, specially in cases where husbands are either not too keen to have regular sex, for whatever the reason it may be, or are unable to satisfy the wife sexually. Age difference can be a big problem. Out station jobs ie. absence of husband for long duration can also be a reason.

As for women, most like to flirt & have some kind of an affair sometimes in their married life, maybe for a small period. In most of these cases, its sans(without) sex. An affair may start but many of such women do not get physically involved. At least in India, we also have plenty of married women who cant even imagine having an affair outside marriage. Women mostly look for some kind of a emotional support which is difficult to understand. For men seeking such affairs, its mostly about sex. This is the reason why there are very few affairs that one can witness over a longer period of time. It starts & finishes very quickly.


In totality, both men & women, when given an opportunity would love to have an affair after marriage, but generally, it is for very different reasons and thus they hardly work.

I think almost every man is ready for the same. The problem is that few get a chance! I want to have one but can't find the right candidate. most girls out here are after money. This cannot give the feeling of having an extra marital affair. Peter, can you help?

Patience is the key! Also, lot of fake profiles around. Peter saying that 10 girls reply to him every day & 10 girls look at his profile is a nothing more than a big fat lie. Join QuackQuack.com as a paid customer if you are looking for love. It is a much better site but a paid one.

Don't use a fake photograph Kumarsingle! Girls dont like it! Just a suggestion.

Hi! Have some interaction to know more about me. Confident of meeting your requirement!

Peter, Pls don't mock poor people! They too need love & affection and have all the right to look for a partner. The day God wants, you too may be forced to spend your whole time looking for Roti/Kapada/Makan!

Yes, Mingle helped me to get in touch with several Girls / ladies but in 99% cases, girls expected financial assistance. The point i want to make is that Mingle is still better than most of the paid sites like Match.com etc.

Absolutely not Tia! But one must know his/her limits. This is the answer you must have received from majority!Frankly, it is not easy to even set these limits. It is easy to say that i don't need physical gratification but it does not work that way. If one is looking for only emotional support, why get involved with the opposite sex? An extra-marital affair always puts ones marriage at stake! Can't one have good friends with the same sex? It is the physical attraction which is at play. Also, any relationship involves two people. A person who is married may look for only emotional support. But what about the other person? In reality, it is almost impossible to find someone from the opposite sex who can fill the void from a bad marriage with a sexual relationship. Extra-marital affairs which actually work come as a package which includes both emotional support & sexual satisfaction.

In all probability, children from broken homes can never lead the same life like others. Separation of parents just changes every thing for a child! Exceptions will always be there.

So, what should a person with a failed marriage but with immense love for his / her child do? Is it not the responsibility of a father / mother to give the best to their children? Is it fair to think about yourself before the welfare of the children you have given birth to? But it is also a fact that each one of us have some emotional & physical requirements. If these requirements are not fulfilled, it leads to frustration and even depression for many. Is it fair for such a person to look for company outside marriage and can such relationships fill the void created by a failed marriage?

I would love to read some thoughts about these questions from unmarried people too. They must realize that marriage in our society is not to be taken lightly. Actually, it is a bond for good and people who break this bond face serious consequences!