It sounds like some people see seduction as a bad thing, as opposed to romancing someone.

I guess I see seduction as the dance leading to sex, which is similar to romance.

Seduction...wearing the lingerie you know he likes, and giving him the "the look", the one he knows the meaning of and reacts accordingly. It could be giving him a flash of that lingerie, or lack thereof, while you're out and about. I suppose you could be like Salome and dance with veils or just give him the look from across the room. It could be the breathy voice spoken right in his ear about what you want to do.

But to my mind, seduction, to be specific to the person you want, has to come after a relationship is established--after you establish the signs you both know.

Romance can be done before and after things are established, because I think it's more about doing the things you know will make the other feel special. If that's making sure you keep on hand their favorite coffee creamer, or letting them have the last piece of pizza, or leading the way with rose petals to the bathtub full of bath crystals and lit candles all around.

I think you have to go slowly with him, since he's not all that familiar. He probably needs a lot of 'lessons' on sensuality as opposed to sexuality. Find out how he feels about touch. Does he like touch? A lot of people don't. You could play games that are only about different touches. Of course, it goes beyond touch. You have to indulge all the senses.

I have a lot of ego. .. so I will for sure... one should have it too!!!! But to the level of self respect!!!