I believe sex is a big part of any relationship. There is alot of things you can learn about your partner through sex as well as it is great for relieving stress. It may not be the biggest part of a successful relationship, but it does matter. What if you find out that your partner can't satisfy you or vice-versa? You can put off your "true love overcomes all" pipe dreams but if you waited until marriage to find out there is a big problem, then you got problems. What if one of you has a hardcore sex drive and the other doesn't? In that case he/she better pick it up or that could drive a wedge in the relationship, and ladies, you can't give a man what he wants, he will eventually get it somewhere else.

It can be just as special if you make it special. And the think of how much more special you could make it if you actually knew what you were doing because you have had practice. This is not the year 1600, and a woman isn't "used up" because she had sex with somebody else before you. That is a rather shallow attitude.