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Fri 04/04/14 08:29 AM
Topic: I NEED HONEST MEN TO ANSWER THIS PLEASE!



No one likes to be pre judged or blamed for someone elses bad behaviour!

If I don't trust or like you, it's YOU ,I don't trust or like.

Here's my confusion: what
I have a friend that I've known for roughly 2 years, we used to date, but he was going through something at the time so I moved on from him.

Well, he reconnected with me last month. I consider him a friend at this point but even that is hanging by a thread.

He has this " thing" about labeling him or " judging" him.

He never calls , justs texts and even that is just " Good Morning"
I try to have some type of conversation, he never really says anything.
Ok.. I don't care he's just a friend. Right?
Then, he sends a text.. " Hey, I thought we were going to hang out"
Ok, again , he's a friend.. I go to his place to watch TV, drink a beer... like I would any " chick" friend.

He wants me to cuddle with him... So OBVIOUSLY, I draw the line!
I blow up... Damn, you men! It's all you think about!

Then, He blows up, " Don't put me in a box"

WTF? You are acting like a caveman... and I'm not to put you in a caveman box?

Can someone tell me where I went wrong? spock Did I miss a signal? huh

FYI- this dude was wearing a ripped to shreds teee shirt and pajama bottoms when I can over! It's not like he was dressed to impressed!


Ladies, you answer as well, have I been out of the game so long, I'm missing key points?





Clearly there isn't enough time and space here for you to include all the background upto reaching this point. However, you say you did date this guy if only for a short period of time some years ago but you moved on and then he reconnected with you a month ago. Well maybe what you saw as renewed friendship he has seen as picking up where you both left off, that is the previous dating relationship two years ago, so I cannot blame him entirely for his coming on to you. Unless you made it absolutely crystal clear to him when he reconnected with you that it would never be any more than friendship he is not entirely to blame in my opinion. Sorry but guys are not mind readers, and unfortunately some guys just have to have it spelt out to them. He certainly did not show any respect for you in what seemingly he at least thought was a date by his tatty clothes. I think there was confusion on both sides here, he was dating and you weren't and I would not judge him too severely. If he did not know the state of play before he certanly does now!! So if you wanted to remain friends with this guy I suspect he would not act the same way again, but after such a bad experience it might be difficult for you to maintain any kind of friendship with him, only you really know the guy. This is just my opinion.




This is also, what I was thinking , Duttoneer!
Except, I never gave any indictaion of " Let's rekindle what we had" vibe.
He texted Good Morning, I texted Good Morning... I mimicked what He did so there would be no misunderstanding!

I hadn't texted him in over a week before he did this, let's cuddle move! I was busy and I assumed he was too, or else he would have texted me sooner.

I think he thought , since I'm not seeing anyone and he isn't seeing anyone it would be ok, because we're both lonely.

If he would have talked with me on the phone he would know, I HAVE A HOUSEFULL OF PEOPLE EVERYDAY!! I have the hang out house of my family!
He would know that... if he'd have called to ask a few questions, and gotten to know me better!