Hello there! I understand your frustration. Just a question and a suggestion for you. On dating sites I would recommend that you put in your profile that you have children. Of course, it's your choice to put their ages. The fact that they are from different fathers really doesn't have to be a topic for discussion until you get to know each other and have benn dating for while and even then the decision is still up to you.

On behalf of men everywhere, we are biologically hard wired to invest our time to meet someone we hope will be our mate with a woman who have no children. Research supports this, which is why women who at a young age that even have just one child will find it difficult to find a man that does not have any children of their own already. It's just a reality in our society.

On the other hand, if you are open to dating men who are much older than you, then the opportunities for meeting someone increases exponentially. The best suggested age would probably be at least 10+ years your senior. The older the man the better the odds. This is because they are more mature who don't want to or can't have children of their own.

The important thing that has been said here already here is that you both spend a sufficient amount of quality time without the kids. You both have to be comfortable enough in your own relationship to being intro ding the children. Even then the kids should be introduced at a slow pace so that everyone feels comfortable. If it doesn't go well at first, then you need to back off and give it some more time. If the kids see that it's good for you, they should eventually come around and so should he.

Relationships take time to grow. Look as dating as if you were looking for a best friend, because that's a relationship that will last. Trying to hurry things will just lead to further frustration and disappointment you deserve more than that.

When you go out on a date, minimize the amount you talk about them and concentrate on the two of you. Remember that it's your relationship that you are developing and the rest will fall into place.