Thanks Hotchikita and oceanblueatbeach!
I know that I have to allow lots of time. And I will do that for them.
They are my angels and they will hopefully adjust. I love this site,
everyone is so helpful and kind! Thanks to everyone that gave me advice

Thanks mistyblue! I do have a time every night and we read and do
activities on the computer through pbs.com and of course power rangers.
They are strong kids and since they have not talked to dad in about 2
years. I know they will adjust it is just hard to get them to
understand. thanks

My grandmother who died of cancer 3years ago. She was my true best
friend and we loved to shop together.

Thanks bigglenn, I will write you soon. I am very patient, especially
with two wild boys who seem to be unable to sit for 5 minutes. Thanks
for all the advice

lulu,
Thanks, yes we do need to heal and I would love to have platonic
friends. I am here for my boys at all times and we do have a open and
honest communication. They know they can tell mommy everything and I do
not hide anything from them. Except when I am on this website, they
think I am doing homework.

Thanks sherrie and big glen I will keep trying.

I would love to do that, but down here nobody wants to take time to get
together. You have to be born and raised here to pretty much fit in.
Even the local jobs are very hard to get on, if you are not from here.
Thanks for the advice, I am still going to try and find moms who want to
do that. I spend lots of time at the school in the kid's classes, so
hopefully I will finally met a parent who would like to do this. I have
sat down with the kids and told them I would like mommy time, but all I
get is lots and lots of tears. I can't leave them when they are doing
that, I feel guilty and really bad for them.

Only one time have I had my children meet someone. I would not introduce
them to someone unless it was to get serious and proably then I wouldn't
let them meet him until 6mths or longer. they are young and I do not
want to upset them.

Since day one my boys are my life and they have always and will always
come first. I just feel that sometimes I would like to go out and have
fun. They are with me all the time. I have taught them how to play
football, baseball and soccer. They are in scouts and my oldest is
getting ready for football. I just hoped I could take time once every
few months and have mommy time.

Two boys 5 and 6

I am an single mom and I was with someone for over a year. He suddenly
died of a massive heart attack and now my two children whom were not
his, can not stand to sleep or do anything without mom. They have said
they do not want mommy to talk to another man or even go out with
friends. How do I get them to understand that I too need to have an
life. By the way, before my boyfriend I had not dated since their daddy
left 15 days before christmas. I too am gun shy, but feel that I need
more then just children conversation 24/7. Does anyone have any advice
for me?

Yep! love those colorado Avalanche

Just wanted to say hi and hope everyone is doing well.

To all the dads who are taking care of the children, you are really good
men. I have two boys and their dad decide that after the first child
there should be no more. But that was a little to late since I was
already pregant with the second one. He left 15 days before christmas
when my youngest was 15months old. He has never paid child support and
never asks about my youngest. Now it has been 3years since he has even
talked to my oldest and when he writes letters it is to ask to send
money to him in jail. As if, I would. He has never even sent a birthday
or christmas card. I have provide for these beautiful children and last
year I thought I had found someone who was great for me and my children
and he died of a heart attack in July. So now I am back to be mom and
dad and the children are now healed and back to be kids.