Perhaps the juice just isn't worth the squeeze so men aren't going there (marriage) anymore? Can't say I blame 'em.

I only had one partner from 14-46 and it will be 2 years on the 16th. I had an experience that made me backtrack. I don’t want it at the moment, but there’s a few I’m coming back for. I will continue to work on myself until the one worthy makes an appearance. I keep attracting narcissistic men, so I said what the heck - I’m kinky I’ll join a fet$ ish website and the men there are, so different. Body positive, gentleman, respectful and watch out for you. There’s widows groups, cooking groups and the amount of d|ck pictures can be overwhelming for someone that had to ask the last guy if he was un-cut. Lol

I can’t find what I need from either place. I call it my in-between. Lol

I have sexual bereavement and it’s hard someday’s. I don’t know how to navigate life yet, so where does a man fit in? Then there’s secondary losses that no one is supposed to talk about. You’re not alone on many issues.

You just need to find your tribe. My suggestion is stay in the forum and be careful. There’s widow outings in many different groups. I want to do it and a support group. With me I have no ability to know what a red flag is and I had to learn on my own what emotional blindness is and now I know it’s from ptsd I’ll work on that. I’ve had a crazy journey with erotic hypnosis, met a ton of professors … for some reason I attract them and I choose to play with one. He looks like Anderson Cooper. Lol He says all the right things and checks on me throughout the month just to say hi. If there wasn’t distance we both said we’d want each other.

Just have fun and you pick your own journey. Hugs - I know you need it. I sure do.

For me, I found on here most men are like this. That’s why I was laughing, just the brutal honesty that kills me. Why be a gentleman and respectful if you don’t have to be? (sarcasm). Lol

I also read discussions on the widowhood communities were many have given up on online dating for the same reason.

I want the same as you, but the sad reality is it probably won’t come from a dating site. In the spring I’ll start joining things that interest me and try to get out more.

I need to return to living again. To me, it feels like I’ve been dropped in another dimension, told to survive without an oxygen tank or like the children’s storybook about the baby bird that hatched well his mother was away finding food. Along the baby birds travels he asks different things if they are his mother included a rock. I need to ask everyone are you my Daddy until I find him lol

No guy wants a relationship, but we say we do cuz it's the only way we get laid.

if we are honest, women won't sleep with us. a small minority of elite men can "afford" to be honest and still get putty. the rest of us will die virgins if we don't lie to you :)

ultimately the majority of relationships are based around pleasure... why do some women hide from that? Why do some women expect love and romance instantly without any effort or anything?

I've had some good relationships come from pleasure, I've never had a good relationship that had no pleasure... don't feel the need to say it as i think most people realise that's how most relationships work?

Life is all about pleasure, how two people find it is their business. As long as it is mutually pleasurable that is.

Women are useful for lots of things. Whining isn't one of them.