I've been adopting the upfront, honest approach for some time. Partly because I want a relationship where we can be open and free with each other and communicate without restrictions, and partly because, in my experience, it brings out any scummy attitude in a potential match so much faster. If a potential match has a scummy attitude of some kind, far better to see that scummy attitude at the start and cut off all further contact then, rather than potentially start to get emotionally attached and only then see the scummy attitude that was there all the long.

Honesty sets us free, while those who choose lies set up an ongoing metaphorical minefield for themselves, where any step could trigger any of their lies (and have them blow up in their faces).

Indeed. Too many men think with their dangling leg instead of their brain.