To quote Dr Phil "we teach others how to treat us"

If others are treating you as you don't want to be treated you will have to figure out either how to teach them otherwise or how best to avoid them and their actions

When threatened it will trigger one or more automatic responses such as fight, flight, freeze or figure it out.

None of which are worth labelling as cowardly if they help you survive.

Bashing yourself up when you get into figure it out mode is not a very good protection

Knowing yourself and growing yourself is not about loosing yourself it is more about transforming yourself which is an inevitable effect of growth and the alternative to growth is not an attractive proposition.

Like the totally automated ones at Maccas and every where else.
You don't think it will stop at the service kiosks?

When that point is reached most jobs will be servicing society.

Would such jobs be unregulated minimum wage?

Best to make it worthy first

Then they won't have the ordinary problem of trying to forget something extrodinary

Send me your ID and I shall send you a catalogue along with the price list

It will be so much better when wealthy parents can pay for their child to take up an apprenticeship fixing the self serve kiosks

An offer of money is just as funny as asking for money

Doesn't matter if it comes in a brown paper bag or a pretty package tied with a bow

and under done

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Yes the funny hat comp. but that don't count here

John Farnham - Burn for You
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDJMgANjLwk

As acceptance is a big part of love I don't see why you cant.

But hey who am I to tell you to love your dentist.

I certainly don't recommend falling in love with them

apologises to any lovely dentists

there will be many hands dealt its up to you to decide the ones you want to hold and which ones to fold on

Tentatively

Its no joke if they are a mad driver

I feel like a Toohey's or two
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zl5xnTqOQqQ
Even though I've never had one

Peppermint reindeer shoes

Don't deny the love you have for self

It's required to power the love of others

The same reason men need women

To reflect reality as we appreciate what is

This thread has inspired me to answer a question I often had pondered myself which is.
Whats the difference between an excuse and a explanation?

An explanation simply attributes cause to effect.
An excuse attempts to apportion false causes to the effect, sometimes magnifying slight cause to major cause or minimising the actual effect.

It feels like a fine line between the two when we are explaining ourselves because it tends to be our emotions that chooses which way we lean.

Laying blame is offering an explanation with an emotional attachment it makes us feel good to blame others because we have attributed cause and responsibility elsewhere, at the same time implying that it inexcusable to cause the effect.

Blaming ourselves doesn't feel as good though because it brings responsibility for a undesired effect back on us. If we are sensible we treat it less emotionally and see it more as an explanation that is excusable still within our ability to respond with a correction.

So


Blame is offering an explanation with an emotional attachment

Responsibility is recognition of where the ability to respond lays

The lies we tell ourselves and the emotions that drive us will determine the distance between what is and what we think



Obviously that not quite right because there is no need to excuse msharmony the blame she so deservedly has earned