You have been with this girl for 5 years and that would mean you were with her when you were 15 so that leads me to think she was your first love. Those are always sweet and precious rarely works out. She also was very young, that right there tells me that it lasted longer than most.

My advice is to let it go, you can drive yourself crazy and never find the answer you are looking for and in the end it doesn't really matter.
I know that sounds harsh I am sorry for it. Take some time to find out who you are and your own identity with an s/o.
You are young I would say date a bit different young women. Take the time to heal and work thru the grief.

Why she wouldn't talk to you, well that could be many reason's. One thing you need to search for is to find out if you are approachable or not. If you aren't then get that way.

Good luck

That is so true about us women, but it also holds true for guys as well.


If I told you that you were unattractive, you'd say "She's right, poor me." And if I told you that you were attractive, you'd probably think, "She's just saying it to be nice, she really doesn't think that." With either answer, I'm not going to be right. When you are going through a hard breakup like you are going through, it's very hard to get out of that, "Woe is me" way of thinking. Especially, because you weren't given any definitive answers as to why she broke up with you. But just remember, she went to somebody else to look for answers in fixing your relationship problems. And even if you were partially to blame for some of the problems, (cause let's face it, none of us are perfect), she still should have had enough respect for you to discuss it with you and not someone else.

If you where to get married wouldn't you want your future wife to be your best friend?

It's always hard to find that someone. Nothing worthwhile is ever particularly easy.

If the friends are mature (and didn't screw each other over), the friendship can occasionally survive the break up.

I'm definitely looking for something serious and meaningful. But I'm an odd duck, so I think finding a great match for me is going to be a tricky thing.

Relation ships that begin with lust, have the hardest time surviving.

If a relation ship is built from the ground up,
starting out as friends and going to lovers you already know the person.

Best friends make the best lovers

Definitely me....anyone looking for a real sweetheart? ;o)

All depends on what true love really is. Many people take love and lust as one and the same. But sure, finding someone who would love my flaws and see them as charming. And I the same with her. That would be alrite.