I just got out of a 5 year relationship with a girl who couldn't talk to me about our problems and talked to another man which ultimately influenced her to leave me, I feel so hurt and dont really know what to do, she won't speak to me now cuz she hates me for some reason, should i move on and let her go or still stress about why she left?

When it comes down to it, if she is gone, there's not really any reason to fret about it anymore than you're going to by default. Naturally, this is harder said than done, but moving on is usually for the best. I wouldn't advise jumping into something new super fast, especially after a relationship of that length.

I went through something similar myself, and we got back together.. and it was worse. Someone said to me recently "an ex is an ex for a reason". Seems to make good sense.

It's time to move on man. She was probably cheating on you with that other man if she was talking to him about you, even if only emotionally cheating. If she didn't know you enough to not listen to him, she wasn't really into the relationship anyway.

No brainer!!! Time to move on!! geeeeeeeeeeeeez youre just 20!!! Lots of hearts to break!!!

yall are probably right but it's still hard, she was my first love and first girlfriend, practically first everything

the 1st is always the hardest...
take some time and put some distance between you and that...
it is in the past...if you can learn at 20 what i learned past your age..let the past go..you'll come out ahead

your probably right, sometimes i think "what if I had done things differently"

nope, don't do that..
all you need to do is ask yourself..
did you learn anything? if your answer
is yes..then it wasn't a waste...
done

<--------remembers first love






HOLY SH*T HE WAS HOT!!!

<---------shakes head........gone gone gone gone gone~~~~!!!

that thought train doesn't work. typically, doing something differently either means doing something that goes against who you are as a person, or just doing something you weren't able to do anyway. In the end, assuming you didn't cheat or do something atrocious, you really can't beat yourself up over what if's.

I took the time figuring out every single mistake I ever made in my last significant relationship, and tried to identify which ones were the problem. The answer I discovered was worse than not knowing. I'd say it's just best to leave that one alone.

go fishing---plenty of 'em out there--

I never liked that expression. I really don't like fish. Nor do I really want a girl that resembles one.

thank you guys for helping me out I really appreciate it, i've been having a rough time lately because of her. But i suppose i'll let it go. it will still take time though

yes it will...it takes time to get over hurts...

move on you're young find a new love

Move the hell on bro

And good luck to you

It may be the first time, but I can guarantee you, it sure as hell ain't gonna be the last.

How would stressing out be beneficial to you?

Keep it movin dude.

But you might wanna do a little introspection on to why she didn't feel comfortable talking it out with you. Unless she just used it as an excuse.

Hmmm. He may or may not be able to figure out an answer to that either...