This is something I'm finding out recently: there's got to be ''that spark'' for romantic relationships. You don't get involved romantically with everyone you love. Otherwise that includes all your family and friends, everybody. A romantic relationship is its own experience that can happen alongside love. If someone isn't ''flippin' your cookies,'' there's no shame in backing down from it. I didn't decide that I preferred women over men, that's just the way it turned out, and I also just happen to like the finer details of what I like. I've also found that spending time cultivating my sense and attitude of appreciation does a lot more for creating the experience which I appreciate the most.