What you are talking about in called "pre-selection" or the "copy-cat effect." It's been well documented among many species included humans. It's sort of lazy if you think about it. A female sees a male with a mate and assumes he must have something good going for him otherwise she wouldn't be with him. The more attractive the woman, the more "value" the man must have.

That's why it's so much easier to attract a new girlfriend when you already have a girlfriend. Also, you can date a less attractive woman for a while and use her to attract and better looking one. It's a sort of glitch in female evolutionary programming that can be taken advantage of.

Try going out sometime with a female friend and talking to other women. They will open up easier and be warmer and friendlier.

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