Theres a lotta hostility from this crowd. Shes probably sure because she never fooled around. And if the guys unstable and flakey, what grounds do we have to suggest her decision to raise the baby alone is so terrible? I grew up mostly without a father, and the worst parts of my childhood were the bits he bothered to apathetically show up for. His other children are damaged almost beyond repair: drug abuse, social disorderes, mental issues, commitment and self esteem problems. All five of them. So if this girl says she thinks it.may be best not to involve him, maybe we should asdume she knows the father better than we do. Oddly enough, the majority of my friends that had "mature" parents wound up resenting or hating their parents for dragging them through the emotional ringer. Most dads were deadbeats and caused more disapointment that good. But sure, lets attack her for considering if years of potential arguments and petiness is really the best course of action.