a soul mate is one that makes you feel complete

I've never understood the ideal of a "SOUL MAAAAATE" (cue orchestra).

A belief like that comes from one of two places:
1. We either believe that everyone who ever loved US fell short of what was expected (cause if they were our 'Soul Mate'we'd be bathed in the oiliness of it), OR

We believe the partners we chose were Love Morons", incapable of accepting the depth, and purity, of OUR love.

So the solution we come up with is to WITHOLD our love, our deepest love, until Soul MATE" appears. Nevermind that there are 7 billion people to choose from.

We invent the soul mate to give OURSELVES an excuse to remain separate.

I think SEX is as powerful as it is because it gives a glimpse of the soul inside If ****ing a body was zippity=do-da fantastic all on it's own, we wouldn't need the Soul Mate myth. The lovers we return to are the ones whose souls are slamming against the walls inside, hoping to be seen.

So no more 'soul mate' , 'Santa', 'Tooth Fairy' whining.
Go get laid, and love EVERYONE the way you want to be loved.