I'm a single foster mom of a special needs kid. It is ok to put effort into your own happiness as well as your child's. I see life as a balance of work and fun. Too much or too little of either one produces a negative balance. Suggestions: Do something nice for yourself every day. Find a sitter. Get out of the house. Look in your community for fun things do. Make plans for future fun, like trips, concerts, movies. Don't be afraid to go out alone. If u are afraid take some self defense or pack some heat. If it makes you feel sad push past that feeling and go! Take an art class, or a dance class. Do something you have never done before like riding a Segway, tube sledding or scuba diving. Happiness comes from inside YOU..... not from others. Just do it. Fun is good.