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Sat 07/22/23 08:02 PM
The FIRST thing you should do is get off dating sites and participate in your own life. Get a hobby, find a craft or art project...something?

Next, you need to GROW UP.
You have a child that need its mother and father.
The moment you two decided to bring a new life into this world you became something more than two individuals.

No problem is completely one persons doing. It takes two to make a child and it takes two to make a loving relationship.
Perhaps you both need to work on your honest communication?

Set aside time where both of you can just sit and talk.
Communication is a two way activity. It is just as important to listen as it is to talk.

Consider the responsibility effect. When someone in a marriage faces overwhelming responsibility it wears on the soul. Consider his feelings of responsibility and praise, yes praise him for his efforts.

Ask him, with love, what he expects in life. Acknowledge what he says and remember what has become important to him. Once the honest communication returns you can address your boredom concerns.

From what you have written, It looks like he has closed down.
That you don't understand what he is going thru so he stops sharing it.

If you would do anything for the ones you love you should demonstrate it with actions. Shallow words only widen the rift.
Wishes and dreams are only possible if you take action to make them happen.

Make a list of the things you want to change.
Note the things that you can change yourself.
Note the things that you need his help to change.
Then make a list of the things that are good, that don't need to change.
Note the things that you do yourself.
Note the things that require his help.

Concentrate on the good things.
Say outloud - "That's a good thing" when they happen. Then smile.
Address the bad things as they happen.
Are they things that could have been avoided with an action earlier?
Are they things that are outside your personal control?
Learning which mistakes you make is not as important as learning how to avoid making them in the first place.
Never minimize your successes. Even the little ones.

Above all, try to remember that he is a human being that is unique. Just as you are unique. You will never look at the world thru his eyes, he will never look at the world thru your eyes.
The best you can do is hope for a mutual understanding.
You are you.
He is Him.
Together you can be unity or strangers.
Its really up to you, its YOUR life.

Thank You for this advice

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Sat 07/22/23 07:56 PM
First, welcome to mingle. I do believe that it would be possible to find a man willing to accept your daughter. If they don't, then they really are not worth knowing at all as your daughter is probably the biggest part of your life. Meeting locally is probably the best way to know if a match is a good one. True reactions trump text every time.

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Sat 07/22/23 07:51 PM
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Sat 07/22/23 07:46 PM
I'm behind you, always behind you...

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Sat 07/22/23 07:42 PM
Yes.

I had just about the worst two relationship ending you could imagine in a row many years ago. The stuff heart breaking movies are made of.

I didn't feel anything real for anyone for years following that, but I always believed it was possible.

Over the last 16 months I met and fell in love. As for love at first sight, I knew the moment I met her she was the type I could fall in love with completely. Sometimes there are just things about a person you can see in the way the smile, move, talk and all of that. And I wasn't wrong. By last fall I knew I was in love and haven't had a doubt of it since.

Too bad she's been with someone else since before we even met. Now I'm just trying to move on even if I know I'll always feel this for her. Maybe she was just the sign I was ready to try again.

Love Your comment, encouraged me