hi....I too am born again! As a woman that's divorced with two children I struggled with the idea of no sex before marriage! I don't see marriage in my near future so no sex... wow that was a hard one for me to understand too for it seems in the Bible it says no self abuse... meaning you can't touch yourself either! To quote you verses and where exactly it says it in the Bible my tool is to ask the question in Google and instantly it comes up and I can read it word for word as written in the Bible! Many people will go ahead and ttranslate it to what they want to hear.. it's pretty clear what it's stating! I found a Preacher on Utube that hits  this on the head....Jefferson Bethke. Best of luck and word of advice in your search for dating someone date someone of the same yolk!