I learned about bi-polar disorder from a class I took on psychology. When they are on their highs they may do various things such as have sex with numerous people. Some pend large amounts of money. It basically has them doing things that most people wouldn't do without an addiction. hahaha

On their lows they feel guilty for what ever they did on their high. So like if they were on a high end of the cycle and went to Vegas and gambled away everything they had and put themselves really far in debt. Then when they finally got to the low end of the cycle they would be really depressed and self loathing would kick in very heavily.

Personally I would have to agree that unless this person is taking medication for their disorder then all you're going to do is make yourself miserable. Even if they take medication for it there is no guarantee they will keep taking it. Lots of people think they are fine and stop taking medications they need so they end up back in the same gutter they started in.

Porsche,what you are going through is far too painful for me to even imagine!

RawrrG,i wonder how you coped and kept strong through it with your ex??!

Eeeeiiiish,there's the physical,but emotional pain can be too hard/painful to deal with!

Keep strong...

Just dropped by to see how you're feeling . Hope it gets easier for you both. I suppose you could try finding humor in it, with her, so that it helps lighten any tension. Though I feel pretty crude joking about anyone's illness, even if they don't mind. How is she coping?

Thats a bit harsh on yourself? Should've called yourself JR with that hat and the women would've came flocking as some of them love a bad boy?

It's so difficult to know whether they're being themselves at times. I have a bipolar ex, and I promised him that I'd be there for him "incase there's an emergency". Surely you'd get what I mean by "emergency". I think it's a shame. He's only been in hospital with it once, and it was no fun listening to how he overdosed. It broke my heart when he told me how the voices were bullying him/urging him to off himself. It's bad enough being bullied by others, but when it's from your own mind, well sheesh. I remember him once saying to me "If I don't take you home right now, I may end up harming you". That scared me like hell. All I can do is look out for him. I suggest you keep her at a distance, until she can show you she isn't gonna take off when she feels like it. I know. Glad I'm not the only one going through it. I try to reassure him. Maybe print information about for her from the internet. Even forum discussion's. Could she join group therapy? Is she on medication at all?

Hey Poreche1985,

Do the best thing for yourself and also after a period of time,you can still be supportive of your bi-polar friend. Both of you guys just need time. Trust me everyone has problems, so you guys are not alone.

I don't really understand ... you feel that she's not the right one for you, so why propose and/or try to get her back?
You're basically going against your own gut feeling here. Why?
Never go against that type of feeling, it comes up for a reason, it's trying to tell you something. So yes, probably painful now, but if she's not the right one for you, well ... kind of self-explanatory.
Wishing you all the best, still a tough situation.