It is called the inner game, or mental makeover. There are lots of books
out there on dating, and or audio CDs which help you not change who you
are, but change how you see things. I can suggest a few of these so
called dating gurus. David Wygant has a really good book called always
talk to strangers, and evan marc katz has a good book on internet
dating. Both of these books you can get on amazon, and don't think of
these things like faults, but learning to use your unique gifts in a way
that is more attractive to the opposite sex. A few ideas I will give you
are to be more proactive in your social skills, have a positive self
image, remember that is is your journey not everyone elses so don't seek
reassurance from family or friends. Enjoy the adverture of dating,
knowing there is no pressure or time limit. Be comfortable with
yourself, and don't let fear stop you from what you want. Set goals,
relax, and pay attention to how people may percieve you.