I think you are absolutely right about that, I was married 15 years with four kids, been divorced for eight and find myself fat(kinda) and fortie who is just now getting back out into the adult world. to be honest I feel like I am turning into my Grandmother (God rest her soul, bitter, and old! But I am taking my friends advice and putting myself out there again for a friendship and maybe eventually a deep meaningful relationship. But man, I swear, I almost feel I don't have much left to offer. To be quite frank and honest when you trust people who screw you over after you have given them your all. You kinda loose faith a little. But I do have faith in God, if it is his will, then I will find a soul mate some day.