My brother in law had to attend a seminar about appropriate behavior in the work place at his new job, (everyone did), and the speaker made a very good point.
The way the human brain works is to categorize all incoming information so that we can better process and understand the world around us. That makes EVERYONE a racist, EVERYONE a sexist, and EVERYONE an ageist. We automatically classify the people we meet by the apparent information about them. Nobody should feel bad for that. The only thing people should feel bad about is believing, acting on, and perpetrating the stereotypes we've grown up with in an imperfect society.

I like,
"Don't tell your God how big your problems are, tell your problems how big your God is."