You've said everything I've been saying
for a long, long, long time now.
But I'm not sure what the next step is.
I'm a musician and I used to go out and hear the bands play around the area. I was more in tune with listening rather than scoping out the room.
I would be aproached by nice guys to dance and I would but I could feel there was no spark.
I stopped going out after a while.
I go to work and I come home to the dog. My music is my piece of mind. It makes me feel good to play. But that's not doing anything on the social side of things.
I work in a small office with 7 people, they're all married and I have one friend that I jam with every now and then.
He just got married in June.
The pool is running dry and time is ticking away.
I really want to share my life with someone.
Is it possible to become selfish with one's independence? Or is there someone out there that's looking for the qualities I have?
I'll take any advice offered.

yeah...that cool
and real public..

I'm not talking about the actual meeting.
I'm talking about the way the guys 'advertise'
Seems to me most of the profiles all have the one component of 'wanting'
it just the wording used to connect.

It you got the 'perfect' one Papersmile then my question would have to be...
Why are you sill on a dating site?

Seems I come across a lot of gentlemen in the 50 and over groups who are looking for that perfect woman. You know, the great body, the beautiful face and the intellect of a pea.
I don't think the guys get it.
You are 50 and over for goodness sakes! Anyone in your age group has already had a life. Most have had children...thus....there might be a few extra lbs but the foundation is still good. Most have smile and worry lines....thus they've been emotionally moved in their lives.
By the same token..you, gentlemen, other than never giving birth, have your own baggage to contend with (I'd bet dollars to donuts I would never meet someone in my age group that have the tight abs I'd love to run my fingers over). But, hey...I'm a realist.
You bring crap to the table too. So as you look for your perfect woman, keep in the back of your mind, the ones you're turning away..
Time to point some of those high expectations you have at yourselves and bring it back to reality. Otherwise you'll settle and be with someone who's not right for you or be alone on the last part of your journey in life.
Kat56