Seems I come across a lot of gentlemen in the 50 and over groups who are looking for that perfect woman. You know, the great body, the beautiful face and the intellect of a pea.
I don't think the guys get it.
You are 50 and over for goodness sakes! Anyone in your age group has already had a life. Most have had children...thus....there might be a few extra lbs but the foundation is still good. Most have smile and worry lines....thus they've been emotionally moved in their lives.
By the same token..you, gentlemen, other than never giving birth, have your own baggage to contend with (I'd bet dollars to donuts I would never meet someone in my age group that have the tight abs I'd love to run my fingers over). But, hey...I'm a realist.
You bring crap to the table too. So as you look for your perfect woman, keep in the back of your mind, the ones you're turning away..
Time to point some of those high expectations you have at yourselves and bring it back to reality. Otherwise you'll settle and be with someone who's not right for you or be alone on the last part of your journey in life.
Kat56

um...yeah

welcome to the family and join in the and the and have a

This is on my profile... "I'm not Barbie (meaning I'm a real woman with real curves) so if Barbie is what you are in search of then I'm not the woman for you. Question is.. what are you going to do with Barbie when her looks start fading or she turns into a raving maniac?"

So I agree with you! Don't be looking for the perfect person because (1) they don't exist and (2) they may LOOK perfect but are beyond perfect in so many other ways! Be careful what you wish for you just might get it!

perfect ones do exist; i got myself one! at least he's perfect for me

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there's a lot of older men, and younger ones too, as well as older and younger women who seem to want specifics. there's nothing wrong with dating someone to whom you are attracted. otherwise, why bother?



if you date someone that you aren't attracted to, haven't you just settled?

Papersmile glad you found the perfect one for you.. not everyone is so lucky!

"if you date someone that you aren't attracted to, haven't you just settled?"

No longer settling here. I thought I could have a relationship with a guy just because he was handsome and oh so sexy, and it/he turned out to be a nightmare.

Hello and welcome

i guess what i'm trying to say is that both components have to be there in order to have a healthy, happy relationship

there needs to be physical attraction between the partners. who wants to date someone that they think is ugly? sure, we all become more beautiful once we are loved - i'm the first one to follow that train of thought. however, there needs to be some initial physical attraction.

of course, that isn't the only part; we need to have common interests, mutual rapport, respect and compatibility

one without the other sucks

and i believe that lots of people have both. there are great looking men with fabulous personalities. you don't have to date someone you find ugly, just to get a good guy. make sense?

your hot

It you got the 'perfect' one Papersmile then my question would have to be...
Why are you sill on a dating site?

i'm not here to date

i'm in a long distance relationship, and this is one of the ways we use to communicate (that is absolutely free)

we're both members of the site

however, even if he weren't a member, there are a couple of dozen real life friends here as well that i wish to keep in touch with , and i would still retain my account.

getting to post in the forums and interact with them is the bonus

I'm not talking about the actual meeting.
I'm talking about the way the guys 'advertise'
Seems to me most of the profiles all have the one component of 'wanting'
it just the wording used to connect.

yeah...that cool
and real public..

IAM NEW I FEEL JUST BE YOU,ER SELF.

Great advice Yankee!

And welcome to the forums to both you and Kat56

WELL THANK U

If someone were to put together a "10 must" list, I'd probably make a 2. And yet I'm smarter, wiser, sexier, more loving, more understanding, more giving, more forgiving than I've ever been in my life.

These days when I look in the mirror I can barely see the spit-fire, hell bent for leather teeny tiny girl I once was. But if I stick my nose right to the mirror, I can see the loving, caring, BS-sensing woman I've become....the one who knows exactly who she is, what she wants and where she wants to go.

I have smushy places where muscle once ruled. But then I have this lovely little grandchild who loves the smushy places.

"For every thing there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven."

Anyone in your life (be you male or female) at whatever age who cannot understand that you are a growing or changing being is going to hold both of you back, and you are doing nothing for either of you in remaining in such a relationship.